As you spend more time together, do you start to develop an attachment to the man? And if he stops giving you attention, do you start to feel lonely? If you’re busy with everyday life and only meet about once a month, does he start to feel like someone you meet just for the money—someone you don’t particularly care about?
If you’re financially comfortable, do you think, “I don’t really need to meet him anyway”?
If you already have another generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter) on a monthly arrangement and feel fulfilled, would you get irritated if a man you’d met a few times—but who hadn’t contacted you in a while—suddenly got in touch wanting to go on a date, as if he’d just remembered you?
I’d like to know how women feel about their male members. If I’m going to support someone, I’d like her to want to see me for reasons other than money—not necessarily as a boyfriend, but because she genuinely wants to meet me.
I’m Meg, a female member.
I haven’t been seeing my papa (a male supporter) for very long, but I already adore him. I respect him, too.
It’s unbearably lonely when we can only meet about once a month, so we keep emotionally close through emails. He’s very open-minded and even tells me that casual, everyday chats are perfectly fine.
The allowance is appealing, of course, but he’s someone I genuinely want to see for reasons beyond money.
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I’m Saito, a columnist♪
I’m not a female member, but I’d like to say a few words from a male member’s perspective.
Please keep the relationship limited to the time we spend together.
Outside of that, focus wholeheartedly on your work and your goals.
That’s always what I hope for the women I see. Please think carefully about why you joined a dating club in the first place.
The stronger your feelings for a man become, the less likely things are to end well.
This applies both to Universe Club and to its female members: like music without a chorus, I hope you’ll move forward quietly, without even realizing how far you’ve come.
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In My 30s, New Member
I completely understand how you feel. I joined the club hoping for something like that too.
But realistically, I think it’s quite difficult to find that kind of relationship.
You’re probably better off approaching it with that expectation—it’ll be healthier mentally, and ironically, women may find you easier to get along with.
After some personal experiences, I’ve recently come to feel that this kind of relationship is indeed pretty difficult to find...
Besides, if she genuinely likes you or has those kinds of feelings, you can usually sense it from her attitude. If there’s no sign of that, it often means she doesn’t feel that way. ^^;
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I completely understand how you feel.
> If I’m going to support someone anyway, I’d like her to want to see me for reasons beyond money—even if we’re not quite a couple.
That’s actually how I feel too.
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