I’m a male member in my 30s.
Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of questions about how women are categorized by type. After reading everyone’s opinions, I’ve come to realize that people interpret it in many different ways.
I’m not a member with money to spare. Since meeting someone through a dating club requires a certain amount of upfront investment, I can understand why some men feel upset when a woman seems different from the type they were expecting.
I’m sure each male member joins the club with different motivations and expectations, so I can’t really comment on that. However, whether it’s work or romance, whenever another person is involved, they also have their own feelings, circumstances, and situations. Expecting everyone to behave according to fixed categories is difficult, no matter how many rules the club puts in place. And if we expect the club—which only arranges the first meeting—to control everything, it will probably just lead to even more complaints from male members. In the end, I don’t think that would benefit members very much either.
Even when things don’t turn out as hoped, blaming the other person often doesn’t change anything. When things don’t go well, I think it’s more constructive to either accept that “these things happen at dating clubs” and move on to the next person, or consider whether there was something on my end that I could improve and work on myself.
There are many unpredictable factors, and the way you interact will naturally differ with each woman you meet. I believe the point of a dating club is to find your own enjoyment and make the most of it.
Ultimately, whether you meet someone again is your own decision, so you’re responsible for the outcome. Sometimes you’ll have a wonderful encounter, and other times it won’t be what you hoped for—that’s simply how meeting people in a place like this works.
Let’s both do our best, haha.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Wouldn’t abolishing Type B make your position in the dating club clearer?
Even with Types C and D, there’s only a possibility that things may progress to an intimate relationship from the first day, so naturally, it may not develop that way on the first date.
If that’s the case, then depending on how you look at it, it’s essentially the same as Type B.
