Maybe I’m just unlucky when it comes to meeting people…
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The papas I’ve met have told me they’d like to continue seeing me for a long time, and they compliment both my personality and my looks. However, I’m often told that I don’t photograph well, so I wonder if that’s why I receive so few offers.
Also, whenever I turn down someone’s request for exclusivity, they always say, “I don’t want you seeing anyone else, so I might have to lower your rating.” This hasn’t happened just once or twice…
I’m getting more and more anxious because I’m finding it harder to meet people. Is there anything I can do?
I read that I have to wait at least six months before retaking my photos, but if I could get better pictures, I’d really like to have them taken again…
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂20s👑Member of another dating club
How you come across in photos isn’t really that important.
From a papa’s perspective, it’s actually a good thing that staff at an elite dating club aren’t professionals at taking photos.
Even if you look great in photos, if you meet in person and look worse than your pictures, he may feel deceived—and there probably won’t be a second meeting.
Also, if he says he’ll lower your rating unless you become exclusive, tell the club exactly that.
If a papa uses such a ridiculous threat, it’s best not to continue seeing him and to part ways.
That said, it’s also a problem if the questioner is given one-sided negative feedback. Be sure to report what he said to the club as well.
I hope you find a wonderful match.
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> However, I’m often told that I don’t photograph well.
If you’d like to check my profile, could you message the club on LINE with something like, “Mr. Maezawa said he would check the profile, so please let him take a look”?
I don’t usually check the LINE messages myself, but I believe the staff will contact me directly. That way, I think I’ll be able to see what the photos look like.
Also, if there are no issues, I think you could share them only with the other respondents without making them public to everyone.
(Though only male respondents would be able to see them > <)
Please feel free to contact me.
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This is asking, “What can I do to get my photos retaken quickly so I have a better chance of meeting a good papa (a male supporter)?”
I’m not very confident in my reading comprehension.
As for having the staff handle the photo retake, the only thing you can do for now is probably keep any papas who want you to be exclusive on the hook by saying things like, “I’m worried because I don’t know if you’ll continue seeing me,” or, “Other papas give me a higher allowance, but I’m offering you these terms because you’re you,” while waiting for a better opportunity to come along.
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Luck plays a part, but I also think it’s important to be able to make decisions when necessary.
There’s a saying that “the goddess of fortune has hair only at the front of her head.” People who don’t seize an opportunity when it comes along will keep missing opportunities forever.
I don’t find the claim that you simply don’t photograph well—made by the people who offered to meet you—all that convincing. After all, they did offer to meet you, didn’t they?
I’ve met more than 100 women, and the few women I’ve continued seeing for years all did what was needed when it mattered. That’s why things didn’t end after just a few meetings.
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Even if you don’t photograph well, unless you’ve turned down exclusive arrangements more than two or three times, once your photos improve, there may even be men waiting in line（笑）。
My advice would be to value the men who make you offers despite your photos not doing you justice. I was thinking that perhaps they saw something appealing in you besides your looks—or maybe you’re actually a beautiful woman who simply photographs well in person.
Well, I’m starting to wonder whether meeting lots of different men really makes that much difference.
I think you’ll have a better relationship if you build a close, meaningful connection with the people you’ve met so far.
When you’re young, it’s easy to prioritize looks, but relationships become deeper and more enjoyable over time.
This may not be the kind of answer you were looking for, but I hope you find it helpful.
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