To women who choose this instead of sex work:

Just as there are criminals in everyday society, there will always be people who break the rules wherever you go. It’s not a world where everyone ends up happy. In the sex industry, you can’t refuse a customer, but with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you can simply end things with someone you don’t like. That said, there is still a possibility that someone may do something you don’t want, so be prepared for that. Beyond that, it’s up to you to protect yourself, so stay careful. Compared with papa-katsu through apps, arrangements made through a club are somewhat safer because the club is involved. Both male and female members have their identities verified by the club, which makes things a little more secure. With apps, you’re completely on your own, so you should expect lies and deception. The rest comes down to chemistry. Some women really click with me, while others dislike me and end things. It really depends on the person. Ideally, you want to find people you get along with and enjoy papa-katsu together. It seems like a good approach to keep a regular daytime job, such as office work, and then, depending on how much money you want, carefully choose a few papas who place as little burden on you as possible—people who aren’t controlling or pushy.

I feel that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t as easy as it may look from the outside. There are certainly people who take the rules lightly or don’t value their promises, and I’ve been disappointed several times myself. Even so, the reason I chose this world instead of the commercial sex industry—and why I’ve continued—is that I can place value not only on the physical aspect, but on the relationship itself. In the commercial sex industry, providing a service is the main focus. With papa-katsu, however, how you maintain a comfortable distance, build trust, and nurture the relationship are all extremely important. I feel that this naturally brings out not only compatibility, but also the ease of conversation, intelligence, and character. Of course, it isn’t all positive. Unclear expectations about how long you’ll be together and being thrown off by sudden changes of plans are not uncommon in this world. Even so, having the freedom to choose someone at my own pace, the possibility of meeting someone who truly values me, and those moments when I feel respected “as a woman”—these three things have been incredibly valuable to me. Some people may be better suited to the commercial sex industry, while others may find papa-katsu suits them. Personally, I strongly want both my heart and body to be treated with care, which is why I chose this world. You don’t have to force yourself to endure anything, and it’s perfectly fine to distance yourself from someone who doesn’t feel right. By narrowing things down to people who are willing to treat you with care, I believe this world can gradually become a more comfortable place. I hope you’re able to enjoy your time in this world with at least a little peace of mind. Please don’t push yourself, and be sure to take care of yourself.

> There are always going to be some people who break the rules or try to leave without paying. That’s completely out of the question, but I think the main reason people choose papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is the sense of security. There’s less worry about someone running off or not giving you your allowance, and men at dating clubs follow the rules. I think that peace of mind is a big part of it. There are details like how long you’re expected to spend together and how you feel about the man, but once the relationship begins, the financial stability and other things you gain through it are things you can’t get from the adult entertainment industry or other ways of meeting people. That’s probably why people say, “Papa-katsu isn’t so bad!” In our case, it’s been eight years. That’s a long time, but unless we both genuinely like each other, it might be hard to keep things going based only on the intimate side of things, don’t you think? (笑)

There’s always the question of whether it suits both the man and the woman. If the man genuinely enjoys being attentive and giving, he may be well suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Whether the woman brings that side out of him is also a major difference from the adult entertainment industry. If it doesn’t suit him, he won’t feel inclined to make an effort, and he may not see any of the appeal or benefits of papa-katsu—instead, he could end up viewing it as a completely lawless and inefficient free-for-all.

If you know how to win over a good papa (a male supporter), it’s not unusual to receive a six-figure allowance per meeting, get several million yen, or even build up eight-figure savings. It depends on your own talents and your luck in meeting the right papa.