I just started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and had an adult relationship (intimate) with someone I was meeting for the first time.

I’m sure it varies. But to the person asking the question: were you okay with it, or did you dislike it? A papa who can adapt to the woman he’s with is probably in the top 5%—a passing-grade papa. Doing too much isn’t good, but neither is doing too little. Since he isn’t just focused on himself, I’d say he’s probably one of the better papas. With girls who enjoy sex, Fuu does a lot of oral and foreplay, and gets more intense until they finish. With cooler girls who aren’t that into sex or this activity—those with more of a transactional-relationship attitude—I tend to focus only on what seems to feel good for them. It’s also nice when a quiet girl who doesn’t make much noise occasionally lets out a moan. By the way, girls who are the completely passive, unmotivated type are pretty rare. They have to be exceptionally cute, have a great figure, be very tight, and at least not dislike the basics. Early on, I enjoyed the activity because even the passive girls had beautiful faces and great figures. But these days, women who are slightly less attractive or less curvy but more charming and enthusiastic about sex tend to become longer-term monthly arrangements. In the end, how good the sex is matters most in this activity. As an aside, though, I do have one monthly partner who’s almost completely passive but gets very wet. She’s young, has a great figure, a cute face like a K-pop idol, an incredible waist, an overdrawn lip look, and huge nails, haha. And she’s amazing down there—I can finish really quickly. Even though she’s passive, I can finish twice. I’ve never experienced anything like it. We’re just incredibly compatible, everything fits perfectly, and the friction hits all the right spots. I can’t give her up—it really feels like a miracle, haha.

As usual, we’re getting questions that are really just surveys of the respondents’ personal habits disguised as questions. I wonder if they’re sharing things somewhere like, “This respondent has this kind of kink,” and having a laugh about it. In the first place, whether everyone is like this shouldn’t matter. What matters is whether the person you met is a good match for you—whether you enjoy spending time together—and whether their allowance is satisfactory, right?

It depends on how you look at it, but while the bad parts (×) are problematic, there are good points too. 〇 Starting with gentle kisses × Licking and kissing her all over △ Deep kissing 〇 Oral sex 〇 Starting with gentle foreplay, then × rough foreplay △ Trying various positions 〇 Stopping when she seems uncomfortable, then giving her gentle kisses and stroking her head ◎ Speaking to her kindly ◎ Wiping her body afterward So, if he started with gentle kisses, only kissed and licked certain parts of her body, gave her oral sex and some gentle foreplay, stuck to the missionary position, stopped when she seemed uncomfortable, then gave her gentle kisses, stroked her head, spoke to her kindly, and wiped her body afterward, that would be perfect, right? That said, it seems unlikely she could expect an allowance of 60,000 yen or more under those conditions, and continuing the arrangement would probably be difficult. I feel like it’s fine as long as she understands that. The woman I’ve been really into lately invited me to her place, and we had sex for the first time. Afterward, we went out on a date, and she asked me to kiss her in elevators and secluded places where no one was around. I’ve completely fallen for her and she has me wrapped around her finger. She’s still incredibly young, and after the girl who had been my top favorite for over four years left, she’s the strongest candidate to become my next number one. Her oral skills are probably the best I’ve experienced since I met the woman with the best oral skills in Japan at Universe Club about four years ago. I honestly thought I was going to die.

This one also feels like bait from K. … Anyway, when you take the bait— I don’t get too carried away with someone I’m meeting for the first time. I just do enough to gauge her reactions and see whether we might become more compatible, while trying to sense the kind of direction she wants things to take. Also, I hardly ever stroke someone’s head. Even if it’s a woman I like, I might be okay with it as an occasional reward, but if it happens frequently, I find it unpleasant and annoying, so I don’t do it. In that respect, I’m the complete opposite of Mac. I think it’s interesting—and perfectly natural—that men and women can have completely opposite ways of thinking and preferences. That also means that when the chemistry is right, the relationship can become deeper and deeper.