People’s preferences vary widely, so there are certainly some who have the kinds of interests the questioner describes. Naturally, it’s reasonable to assume that some members of Uchu Club are like that as well. Among them, there may even be people who engage in things that can’t be done at adult entertainment venues, as you mentioned.
That said, people with those preferences are probably the exception. So if you’ve ended up meeting several men like that, I think there may also be something you can improve on.
First, thoroughly review your profile. Depending on the situation, you might even want to change your photos.
Also, if you meet a man who doesn’t respect your terms and his attitude suddenly changes once you’re in a room, don’t hesitate to call 110. The police will respond even before any violence occurs. I have a younger friend who’s a police officer, and he says that if they receive a call such as, “My husband says he’s going to kill me,” they’ll dispatch officers regardless of whether any violence has occurred—even if they think it’s merely a lovers’ quarrel.
For now, let’s start with what you can do.
This sounds made up.
A certain percentage??
There may happen to be papas like that, but—
If someone tries to force you, get away.
If they forced themselves on you after you refused, did you report it to the club?
That’s why there’s a dating club involved in the first place. They should be able to ban the papa.
Besides, there aren’t many tea-only dates at clubs, so isn’t this actually about an app or street-based encounters?
There’s no point posting about it anonymously here. Please report the other person’s club name and what happened to the club.
Could this be another made-up story for attention?
I’ve never choked anyone hard myself, but there are women at the club who like choking people too—seriously, to the point where they really mean it… In this case, I’m the one being choked…
I’m also pretty sadistic in other ways, though…
There are sadistic people of both genders, but I don’t think many of them do that right from the start.
It would be pretty shocking unless you’d gotten quite comfortable with each other first.
To run into someone like that so quickly…??
> (There are quite a few girls who want to be choked, though the person asking probably doesn’t know that.)
I couldn’t agree more.
I’m not into choking anyone, but I’ve been asked to do it many times.
> Is there any way to get rid of the assholes who want to engage in hard play that would be prohibited at establishments like these, except at BDSM clubs?
Universe Club isn’t an adult entertainment establishment, so even if a man wants to engage in hard play, that alone doesn’t make him an asshole. A man who does something the woman hasn’t agreed to is the one who’s in the wrong.
As explained when joining, Relationship Type C doesn’t mean you’ll go to a private room if the terms are right. If you’re willing to do that as long as the terms are right, that’s Relationship Type D. The person asking this question is misrepresenting their relationship type.
Also, regardless of the relationship type, both parties have the right to say no. That’s a major difference from the adult entertainment industry.
With Relationship Type C, you’re supposed to properly assess the man during the meal, and only pursue a mutually consensual relationship if you feel he’s trustworthy. If he seems suspicious, you can turn him down. Even if he doesn’t seem suspicious, you can still decline simply because he’s not your type.
And having the first meeting be tea only is strange to begin with.
The basic expectation is a meal. Tea is allowed only in exceptional circumstances, so the fact that there are men who say, “Tea is fine, right? I’m an exceptional case, so I’ll only do tea,” seems to be part of the problem. But perhaps it can’t be helped, since the staff can’t exactly take a strong stance with the men.
Of course, that doesn’t mean every man who suggests a tea date is bad. But as a general tendency, it does seem to be that way.
There’s often an underlying attitude of prioritizing their own feelings over the woman’s—for example, thinking that spending time and money on a meal is a waste.
As for specific measures, I’m not sure what “eliminating” them means, so I’ll reframe this as how to avoid being pressured into someone’s unusual preferences.
If someone tries to pressure you into something you’re not comfortable with, that means you haven’t consented, so tell them firmly, “I don’t want to.”
If they continue despite you saying no, that constitutes non-consensual sexual intercourse, and you can report them.
Generally, if someone doesn’t stop after being told three times, that’s considered grounds for taking legal action. If they still don’t stop after three clear refusals, it’s reasonable to call 110.
Of course, it wastes both people’s time and is a hassle, so it may be effective to start recording and say, “I’m calling the police.”
Most people will stop after you say “I don’t want to” three times, so you probably won’t need to record anything. But if they still refuse to stop, having a recording can be useful, and in most cases they’ll back down when you say you’re calling the police.
Wait, was this another bait question?
Well, whatever.
