This is about traveling.

I only travel with people I have a monthly arrangement with, or a similar level of closeness, so there’s no extra charge for travel. Whether we’re intimate or not, and even if I’m on my period, the allowance stays the same. In reality, we’re usually intimate about once every three days when I’m not on my period. I might not do it more often unless I’m asked, though. Maybe I just have a low sex drive.

I think there are all kinds of ways to spend time together through Uchu Club, but for me, the real appeal is traveling together, so I’m happy to see questions like this. It also lets me learn about other people’s styles. I’m in my sixth year as a member (lol), and after a lot of twists and turns, I’ve settled into my current style. If I invite someone—or get invited—on a trip, I first make sure we’re clear about the allowance. I calculate it by the number of days, not nights. Whenever possible, we meet and part ways at the destination. I also give a little extra toward the round-trip transportation costs. Here’s the expense report for a recent trip I took with Emily. Destination: Kyoto Meeting place: Kyoto Station Length: 2 nights, 3 days Allowance: 1 day’s allowance × 3, plus the round-trip Green Car fare from Tokyo to Kyoto (¥50,000) Schedule: Day 1: Meet in the evening; dinner at a teppanyaki restaurant Day 2: Morning zazen session; lunch featuring Kyoto-style kaiseki cuisine; go our separate ways for a while; meet back at the hotel in the evening and stay overnight Day 3: Morning zazen session; breakfast; part ways The total cost, including meals, was around ¥450,000. I transferred the transportation money in advance. On the second day, we went our separate ways from afternoon until evening. On the third day, we parted at the hotel in the morning. Even with Emily, who’s currently my favorite, I can’t keep up physically—or in other ways—unless we set aside some time to do our own thing during the trip. To avoid any trouble, I think it’s best to add at least a little extra when traveling together. Of course, only within reason.

Basically, I’ll go on day trips, but I don’t do overnight trips. If I were to take an overnight trip, I’d book separate rooms. The allowance would probably be twice the amount for a day trip, I guess.

When we travel, we never even discuss the allowance, and I don’t remember how much I gave them when we got back. I feel that what matters most is whether we actually enjoyed the trip. (With my favorite girls—the ones I’ve met hundreds of times—I’ve never discussed an allowance for an adult relationship either.) Even afterward, they continued inviting me on trips, and we’ve gone away together many times, so I assume they must be enjoying them too. Whether the relationship comes first or the allowance comes first depends on various factors—time, what’s involved, compatibility, and so on. I think everyone places importance on different things. Although allowance is what brings us together, I wonder if there are still quite a few men and women who dislike having their connection be based on money—perhaps precisely because money is involved.

I decide how many nights to stay based on the destination, what we’ll be doing, and when we’re both available. As for the allowance, I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve written this, but I ask her before the trip. I never invite someone on a trip if we haven’t traveled together before, so I only bring up the allowance when she invites me. Most of the time, she says she doesn’t need one, but I don’t feel right about that, so I tell her I’ll give her one pay-per-meeting allowance each time. The only other amount anyone has ever asked for was one pay-per-meeting allowance. No one has ever asked, but if she wanted an allowance for each night or day of the trip, I’d probably decline. I’m not that eager to travel that I’d go along with those terms. P.S. However, if it were a sex-focused trip—for example, if we planned to have outdoor sex every day or go to a sex club—I’d probably pay an allowance equal to the pay-per-meeting amount multiplied by the number of days or nights. When traveling for sightseeing or similar reasons, I don’t particularly want to have sex in the hotel room every night.