Maybe she decided not to make an offer after discussing it by message.
She may have missed checking Patro—or simply not wanted to look at it—and the opportunity may have passed. It’s also possible she ignored you because the meeting details were underwhelming.
If it’s bothering you, why not make an offer to another woman? Isn’t it a waste to dwell on it? The offer fee on Patro is refunded as points, so you could just let it go and move on to someone else.
There are fewer women who are as motivated as you might imagine.
If you’re registered with Universe, and the woman is also with Universe, I assumed you were requesting an Order Date through PATOLO because you had already been exchanging messages beforehand. But are you saying you submitted the Order Date request without exchanging any messages?
Also, I’m not quite sure what you mean by saying, “It looks like it may end without being finalized while I’m still being ignored.” Do you mean the staff are ignoring you? Or did the staff tell you that the woman isn’t responding?
If it’s the latter, then even if you make an offer through Universe, I feel the staff would be just as helpless if the woman doesn’t respond. Or were you told that, if the staff made the offer through Universe, you would be able to contact her through a different method than PATOLO?
If that’s the case, then, as the staff said, there may be some benefit to trying through Universe. Still, I do wonder whether that actually happens.
> Even if the offer is accepted and we meet, I feel like things might be awkward, so I’m hesitant.
If the offer is accepted, I don’t think it would necessarily be awkward. In the first place, one of the most common reasons women don’t respond on PATOLO is that they simply haven’t checked their PATOLO messages, so I don’t think there would be any awkwardness involved.
Some women register with dating clubs because they appreciate having the staff handle the communication, since they dislike the pointless back-and-forth with men on dating apps. So there are women who wonder why they should have to check messages like they would on a dating app, or why they should have to engage in pointless exchanges. In that sense, it’s only natural that some women don’t respond.
Also, being able to exchange messages directly on PATOLO isn’t purely an advantage—it has its drawbacks as well. If a man assumes he’s the one choosing, as he might with someone from Universe, and sends messages to a woman in that mindset, she may stop responding.
It should be obvious if you think about it normally that women are choosing men too. If you assume that things work differently simply because it’s a dating club, you need to be careful, because it can end up being just like a dating app.
A man’s personality also comes through in the wording of his messages. Even from the staff’s perspective, there are plenty of men who write things that make you think it’s no wonder the woman stopped responding.
Is it an order date? I’ve only ever done auto-dates.
Are you messaging the woman directly? Why not switch to an auto-date now, communicate with her, and decide on the date and time before submitting the auto-date request?
I’ve never used the order-date system, so I apologize if I’m mistaken.
With the order-date system, I believe a staff member is supposed to mediate between you. Does this mean you were ignored?
If things aren’t working through the order-date system, I feel you may get the same result even if you go through Universe Club.
If you meant the auto-date system and it was just a typo, then there may be a chance things will work out through Universe Club.
〇Update
I checked PATOLO’s guidelines, and they say you can apply for an auto-date without exchanging messages. Realistically, though, I feel it probably won’t work out unless you coordinate the date, time, and location first.
〇Second update
I just checked PATOLO, and it looks like they’ve added a feature that lets you ask the club for help. It might be worth trying that feature.
