I’m a female member of Universe.
Lately, there have been far too many male members who catch serious feelings after meeting me just once for a first meeting and having an adult relationship (intimate) that same day.
After meeting only once, they all start acting like I’m their girlfriend, so at this point I can’t help but laugh lol.
In the past, I put up with the stress and kept things going for the money, but recently I’ve started ending things quickly because dealing with the risk of problems like stalking is too much trouble.
What do you think goes through a papa’s mind when he catches serious feelings?
I tell them that I want a transactional relationship, but… The boundaries in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are so vague that I feel like working in the adult entertainment industry was actually easier. (Although there were plenty of men who caught feelings there too.)
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I’m sorry if dreamers like me are causing you trouble.
That said, we have our side of the story too. What many older men are looking for is a sweet, romantic connection more than anything physical. And when someone gives them that, some men end up opening their wallets far more than they should. I’m one of them.
Emily is my favorite right now. We’ve only known each other for six months, yet I recently passed the 10-million-yen mark with her. ← Am I an idiot?
We see each other once or twice a month, so about ten times total, and the allowance is perfectly ordinary each time. The reason I’ve gone over 10 million yen is that I’ve convinced myself we have a sweet, romantic connection. I even bought her a high-end Italian motorcycle. Emily acts in a way that’s more than enough to keep that fantasy alive—when I bought it, she rode it out of the shop with me on the back. She lets me live the dream. Of course, afterward, it was my turn to get on her.
Things like this are possible too, so please try to understand the hearts of older men a little better.
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> There have been far too many male members lately who fall genuinely in love after meeting a woman once for a first meeting and having an adult relationship that same day.
Are they really falling in love, though?
Did you receive something like 10 million yen from them?
It seems just as likely that this is ordinary papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), not genuine romantic feelings at all.
> I tell them that I’m looking for a transactional relationship, but…
Could you mean that you’re looking for private escorting?
Many men who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) see papa-katsu and sex work as two separate things. That’s why more men prefer something other than a relationship that’s just about getting physical.
Maybe you’re looking for private escorting, but are confused because they don’t want that kind of arrangement.
If so, I think you’d need to say something like:
“I’m looking for a private escorting arrangement where we only get physical. I’d also like to set an hourly rate.”
Otherwise, it may not get the message across.
> Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) feels vague, so I think working in the sex industry was easier.
It isn’t vague. Papa-katsu means receiving an allowance while spending time together in a relationship that feels like being a couple, so if you’re looking for something more like sex work, I think you should change your approach.
By the way, at Universe Club, many men say they won’t make offers to women who work in the sex industry.
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Paid dating services are where men play out their fantasies of true love. Even if nearly 100% of them are deluded, they’re easier to deal with there.
papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a place to enjoy that feeling of true love. Both men and women understand that and keep things transactional, which lets them both get more emotionally invested. If the woman isn’t enjoying it too, it becomes boring, painful, inefficient, and exhausting.
Unlike in the adult entertainment industry, men have countless other wonderful women to choose from—dozens of times more, seemingly without limit. So women are actually the ones being tested: if a man cuts things off and moves on, you could even say she’s the one being discarded.
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Maybe it also depends on how the woman acts, don’t you think?
Even women in monthly arrangements can be very different—some act like it’s a romance, while others are good at keeping a clear boundary.
Fuu doesn’t misunderstand things after just one meeting, but there was one woman who would text me things like “I love you” and “I can’t wait to see you again,” then say she liked me when we met. We stayed overnight together several times, even spending special occasions together, and I ended up completely misunderstanding things too, lol. When I told her, “I like you too,” she blocked me on LINE, lol.
If she’d just been clear that it was transactional, I wouldn’t have said things like “I like you” either…
Please don’t do the whole “I’m genuinely in love with you” act—I’ll misunderstand, lol.
I know, I know. Acting like you’re genuinely in love makes it easier to get more money out of them, right?
Still, women should be careful with that kind of act too. Men are simple, and it can become a hassle later on, so keep a clear boundary and handle them skillfully.
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I’d rather make them genuinely fall for me. Then they’ll be grateful for the rest of their lives. Sounds fun, doesn’t it?
In return, I don’t plan to marry them, but I do intend to take care of them so they’ll never have to worry about money. I’d say about five people have paid me eight figures.
Since you seem like the type who gets a lot of attention, if you can make only the polite, generous ones genuinely fall for you, you could probably pull in nine figures and live comfortably for the rest of your life.
If you’ve been ending things as purely transactional relationships, you may have lost out on around ¥50 million. Become a top-tier questioner, girl.
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What makes you decide that someone has developed genuine romantic feelings?
I never ask women for any personal information because I don’t want them to see me as a troublesome man. Also, a woman came to my company before and caused some problems, so I don’t want to share my personal information either.
I feel like you may be encouraging the woman to develop genuine feelings for you. Using romance as a sales tactic is high-risk, high-reward.
I only want her to play the role of my girlfriend while we’re together.
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