Would you offer an arrangement to a married woman?

I’ve been making offers. Lately, I’ve been seeing a woman in her 50s. She’s incredibly youthful and could easily enter a beauty-over-40 contest. She and her husband aren’t on bad terms, but they’ve stopped being intimate, and with menopause approaching, she was struggling with her appeal as a woman. I don’t feel particularly guilty about it—I’ve basically become her second husband, rather than her second wife.

If I knew she was married, I wouldn’t make her an offer. For that matter, if I were married myself, I probably wouldn’t be doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

I’ll make an offer if the benefits outweigh the risk of being sued. Come to think of it, the “black” woman who was arguably No. 1 at Universe Club was married. I never got to meet her because our schedules didn’t line up, but she was truly something else. I still have her saved as a favorite, so all I can do is hope she comes back. I figured 150,000 yen per meeting was probably the minimum, and even thought she might become the first woman in three and a half years to receive 200,000 yen per meeting from me—but she seems to have either withdrawn or taken a break. There was also a woman I met while she had a boyfriend. She eventually got married and became pregnant, then told me, “I still want you to see me even after I have a child. I want you to secretly come to my kid’s sports day, too.” Once the relationship deepens, it becomes impossible to simply part ways because of marriage or childbirth. Women have asked me to keep seeing them after they get married, and I haven’t been able to break things off. I bring up ending things about ten times, but in the end, I always say yes... When a woman is saying yes, I feel that a man saying no is ultimately just protecting himself, and isn’t very manly. If it were simply an affair without any financial support involved, it would be a serious problem. But this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), after all. It’s easy to imagine how much cutting off the financial support would corner the woman. > The other day, you suddenly came to my company, looked only at my face, and left. There must have been some reason for that, right? I just wanted to say hello to a fellow papa-katsu ally—I consider you one, even if that’s presumptuous. Our styles are completely different, after all—you and I, Mac. That’s precisely why I respect you. I think we’ve spent roughly the same amount overall, so there’s no real question of one of us being superior to the other. I actually wanted to take my time and have a meal with the girl who lives with you, Mac, but afterward I had a date with a girl in Sakae, so I was in a bit of a rush. > I heard you became friendly with my ex, lol. I’m pretty sure she dislikes me. No doubt about it, haha. > Loser Guy seems to have a tendency toward “stealing other men’s women” in terms of his personality and preferences, so her husband must be quite a man. Maybe you also get a thrill from one-upping him by taking his wife, lol? Seriously beautiful women who are on another level can be scary. They can be madly in love with their genuine boyfriend or husband while still making sure they have a solid safety net for their lives. In this case, I’m the safety net. I would never interfere with a woman’s life, so I think I’m simply a convenient presence for them. I’ve never met a truly beautiful woman who was satisfied with just one man. Because I know that frightening reality all too well, I don’t trust women who say things like, “I don’t have a boyfriend or a papa. You’re the only one, Loser Guy.” And because I don’t trust them, I never become close to them. I find girls who honestly say, “I live with my boyfriend—and I also have a papa,” much more trustworthy, and I’m able to get closer to them. It’s not exactly about stealing someone’s partner, but I do aim to be loved at least as much as her genuine boyfriend. That’s why I’ve turned myself into a short, fat, bald guy with no muscle and showered her with money. Women love money, so I can compete with their genuine boyfriends well enough.

I hadn’t really given much thought to whether they were married or single, but it’s surprisingly common for people to worry about the risk of being sued by their partner’s husband. If anything, the bigger issue is when being married limits the days and times you can meet. The same goes for single mothers and people in certain professions. Even if someone is married, if they’re practically separated and don’t have those restrictions, that could actually be an advantage.

Offering to married women is like having sex without a condom while ignoring the risk of STIs. Just as there’s always a certain percentage of men who want to go bareback, there must also be a certain percentage who don’t care about the risk of being sued by the woman’s husband. Some may have a cuckold fetish, some may be after a deliciously mature body belonging to a woman frustrated by a sexless marriage, and others may be looking for the kind of consideration younger women can’t provide. Men tend to avoid married women because of the risks, but I’ve never seen a woman consider the risks of having a married papa (a male supporter). I suppose avoiding married men would make it harder to find a papa, but even so, it’s strange. > I’m surprised that so many of you worry about the risk of being sued by your partner’s husband. Along with the risk of being sued, in my case at least, I also simply feel that it would be wrong toward the husband. I’m probably in the minority, but despite appearances, I’m actually an incredibly kindhearted and serious person at heart. I have absolutely no intention of criticizing Toshi—I was just explaining my perspective. Come to think of it, there was a woman I met through an offer at Universe Club who I later found out was married. She said, “My husband knows and approves,” so I continued seeing her. Maybe in the past, the club had a policy of deliberately not stating whether a woman was single or married on her profile. I wonder when that changed. > The woman who could arguably be called Universe Club’s No. 1 blacklisted woman was married. Makeo probably has a cuckoldish streak in terms of both personality and preferences, so her husband must be quite a man. Maybe he also gets a thrill from gaining the upper hand over the husband by taking his wife, lol. > Your styles are completely different. That’s true. Fair enough. > I actually wanted to take my time and have a meal with the girl who’s living with Mac. Anytime, if you get another opportunity. Today, I’m taking two mixed-race girls to a mixed-bathing hot spring and showing them off to all the men there. I’m sure Makeo would want to show off the body he’s worked so hard to build. You’re right—our styles really are different.

At a club, both women and men are looking for partners who are better—or rather, the best—in every respect. In that sense, married women can’t meet those expectations. The same applies to single mothers and women who work nights. That said, if someone isn’t looking for those qualities or an ideal match, they may still receive an offer.

I don’t offer arrangements to married women. I wouldn’t knowingly do anything that increases the risk.

There are plenty of wonderful single women out there, and I don’t want the hassle, so I generally don’t make offers to married women. That said, if I met a woman I liked enough to feel that her being married wasn’t an issue, I might make an offer. I’ve had women in an allowance-based arrangement get married, and I’ve also dated married women without an allowance-based arrangement.