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Oct 10, 2024 08:06
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This is just my personal take, but I don’t think making an offer for a date a month in advance is too early at all. In fact, many people may find it ideal because it makes planning easier.
From a woman’s perspective, it can feel more reassuring to know the schedule ahead of time rather than receive an offer at the last minute. Especially for someone balancing work and personal commitments, being approached about a month in advance can be appreciated.
Of course, if the date is set too far ahead, circumstances may change for either of you. But around a month in advance seems like a realistic timeframe. I remember feeling that offers made about that far ahead worked best for me as well.
What matters isn’t so much whether it’s early or late, but whether it makes it easy for the other person to plan. I think it comes across as more considerate if you suggest a date first while leaving room to adjust if it doesn’t work for them.
Try not to overthink it. Reaching out at a time that takes the other person’s situation into account is probably the most natural approach.
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I also have work commitments, so I usually arrange my schedule about a month in advance.
There was one woman I’d previously made an offer to who could only set dates at very short notice, so I wasn’t able to make an offer.
Also, when a beautiful, popular woman joins papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with no prior experience, it’s hard to deny that it can feel like a first-come, first-served situation.
Between now and the date a month from now with you, she might receive another offer and meet a papa (a male supporter) with much better terms. Or she might end up with a papa she dislikes, quit papa-katsu, and cancel her offer with you. I think those are possible scenarios.
That said, I don’t think this is likely with women who have been members for a while and have high ratings...
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If she’s also registered on PATOLO, it might be worth sending her a quick message to confirm.
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I don’t think that’s the case.
I usually start sending offers about a month in advance, but when I reach out only two weeks ahead, it’s fairly common for our schedules not to line up and for us to be unable to meet.
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Generally speaking, offers for one or two weeks in advance are the most common, and women are probably more likely to accept dates scheduled within that timeframe.
It’s possible to arrange an offer a month in advance, but a woman’s feelings may change. Also, if she has dates planned with other men before then and happens to meet someone unpleasant, she may decide to leave the service. In that case, even a date you had planned will be canceled.
Considering all this, if you still want to schedule as early as possible, making the offer about two weeks ahead seems like a good balance—not too early and not too late.
That said, if a woman has very limited availability for dates, you may need to make the offer a month in advance to find a suitable date.
Of course, if you simply prefer to plan your schedule a month ahead regardless of the circumstances, there’s nothing wrong with making an offer that far in advance.
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Women find it easier to plan their schedules when offers are made well in advance, so an offer for a month from now is perfectly fine.
On the other hand, women tend to dislike last-minute offers. Of my monthly arrangements, only about two girls will agree when I say, “I want to see you today.”
Women are busy creatures.
Logically, we papas probably feel busier since we work all 365 days of the year, but young women have tons of things they’d rather do than meet a papa—like going on dates with their boyfriends. That’s why I think offers are more likely to work out when made well in advance.
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Whether it’s too far ahead depends on the woman. I think you should go ahead and make her an offer.