I was looking forward to taking a trip with my monthly partner, whom I’d continued seeing even after we ended up living far apart. But I couldn’t reach her even the day before, and she didn’t show up for our meeting on the day.
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I messaged her saying that if she wanted to end things, she should just block me. She replied, “You don’t mean today, right?” When I said, “Yes, today,” she blocked me, including my phone number. Thinking about it now, I realize we had only discussed the date verbally quite some time ago.
What do you think was going through her mind? Was she worried I’d be angry, thought it was too much trouble, or felt bad and blocked me because I told her to?
Also, is blocking sometimes temporary, with a possibility of being undone later? She’s a very nice girl, but she’s slow to reply not only to me but to other people as well, and apparently doesn’t check LINE very often.
If it was only a verbal agreement, and you already knew she was slow to respond, expecting confirmation the day before was unrealistic.
You should have confirmed the plans a month or at least two weeks in advance—especially if it was a costly trip.
Honestly, traveling with a woman who can’t communicate properly is pretty risky in the first place...
I understand how you feel, but there’s no point dwelling on what’s already happened. Move on and make an offer to the next woman.
She probably won’t unblock you.
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> A girl who’s slow to reply to LINE—not just to you, but to everyone else.
These days, there’s no such thing as a girl who’s simply slow at responding on LINE…
There are only papas (male supporters) who put LINE messages off and leave girls hanging for ages, and those who don’t…
If you’re not careful, you may become the kind of delusional guy who keeps holding onto hope even after she repeatedly messages you to decline—or even blocks you.
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You told them to block you, and they did. Now you’re asking whether they might unblock you? Are you okay?
Is work going well? I’m genuinely worried that your business partners and subordinates may have already had enough of you.
People who can pull shitty stunts like that, even in a relationship involving money, give off a full-on stench of shit in their supposedly well-managed personal relationships too.
How extreme were your demands and how much harassment did you subject this much younger person of the opposite sex—whom you yourself describe as “very kind”—to, that you drove them to cancel your trip at the very last minute?
As far as the person asking this question is concerned, their personality has become truly awful. If they simply didn’t want to go on the trip, all they had to do was send one LINE message before cancellation fees applied—or while they were still low.
They got back at you in the way that would hurt the most.
After doing something like this, there’s no way they’re going to unblock you.
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I block someone when I think they’re too much trouble, don’t want anything to do with them, and have no intention of continuing the relationship.
I’m not going to unblock them after some time has passed.
It’s also creepy when someone still can’t let go and keeps trying over and over to see if their messages have been read.
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I think there’s an extremely slim chance they’ll ever unblock you...
Waiting around and clinging to that tiny bit of hope probably won’t do you any good. It’s best to move on.
You didn’t say whether you’re a member, so I’m not sure, but if you are a member of Universe Club, one advantage for male members is that they can make offers one after another as long as they pay the setting fee.
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> What do you think the girl was thinking at that moment?
Of course, only she knows for sure, but one possible interpretation is:
“If you want to break up, block me.” → “I want to break up.”
“Not today, right?” → “It’s okay if we meet one more time and talk things through properly first, right?”
“Today.” → “No, there’s no time for that. Decide today whether we’re breaking up.”
“Block me, including my phone number.” → “If there’s no chance to talk it out, then it can’t be helped. He’s telling me to block him, so I’ll do as he asks.”
That may have been the exchange.
As for the travel date, if she didn’t reply the day before, I doubt she was going to show up that day. Perhaps she wasn’t very enthusiastic about the trip in the first place. Or, as you mentioned, since you had only discussed it verbally, there may have been a mismatch in how each of you understood the plans.
You were the one who asked her to block you, so wondering what she was thinking after she actually did it seems a little problematic on your part as well.
You don’t tell someone to block you if you don’t want to break up with them. That’s something you say to someone you’re okay with breaking up with.
I think it will be difficult to repair things this time, but going forward, you may want to be more careful about what you say.
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Before a trip, it’s normal to exchange lots of messages and talk about the fun sightseeing you’ll do, so she probably didn’t really want to go in the first place.
There’s a chance she may unblock you, but I think you should look for another, more emotionally stable woman.
People who are slow to reply on LINE are usually no good—or they’re mentally unstable. Best to stay away. Among the arrangements I’ve had going for years, not a single person has ever gone more than 24 hours without replying.
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