If the date you’ve promised to your monthly papa and a date with your boyfriend overlap, which would you prioritize?
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My papa requests his preferred date a month in advance, while my boyfriend usually asks to set a date about three days beforehand.
I don’t receive an allowance from my boyfriend, but he’s in his twenties like me, our dates are fun, and the adult relationship is more enjoyable than with my monthly papa.
Would it still be the appropriate choice to prioritize my papa since he requested the date first?
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I think the basic rule should be to honor prior commitments.
Even if your papa (a male supporter) knew you had a boyfriend, he may still feel uncomfortable if you turn him down for that reason.
If you wouldn’t mind losing your papa as a result, then why not prioritize your date with your boyfriend?
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A little late, but here’s what I would do:
I’d prioritize the person I made plans with first and tell the other person that I already have plans. I’d do the same whether it was a papa (a male supporter) or a boyfriend.
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I’m an older guy, so I don’t have a papa (a male supporter) or a boyfriend.
I believe prior commitments should come first. I can’t trust people who don’t honor them. Whether they’re women or men, I keep my distance from anyone whose actions don’t match their words or who breaks promises.
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Fuu supports her boyfriend and her other papas, but cancellations or rescheduling just three days beforehand are a problem.
Most restaurants and hotels charge cancellation fees starting three days in advance, so I’d appreciate being notified at least a week ahead if plans need to change. Wasting money on cancellation fees is such a shame. If I’m going to pay a cancellation fee, I’d rather use that money for dates or my monthly-arrangement girls lol.
I have plans with other monthly-arrangement partners, work, and other commitments, so when someone cancels, it’s hard to make the next appointment. If it happened to me repeatedly, I’d end things and look for someone else lol.
Though, if it were my boyfriend, wouldn’t it be fine to meet before or after seeing my papa? That could count as a date too, right?
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If you’d be upset to lose your papa, ask your boyfriend to change the date of your date.
If you reschedule with your papa, there’s a chance he won’t ask to see you again. Your boyfriend probably wouldn’t suddenly break up with you just because you changed the date.
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Haha, lol.
You should prioritize your papa (a male supporter). Why not suggest the following day to your boyfriend?
P.S.
The woman I’m seeing and I have been in an allowance-based relationship for seven years, but lately I’ve often had things suddenly come up around our scheduled dates, and she got mad at me the other day.
But with everything going on, it can’t really be helped, right?
I can’t exactly tell someone who’s just made plans with me, “Sorry, I already have a date scheduled with so-and-so, so I can’t!” lol.
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I think it’s better for your mental well-being to prioritize the papa who makes dates more enjoyable or offers a more satisfying adult relationship (intimate).
If a papa’s only advantage is his allowance, there doesn’t seem to be much benefit to prioritizing him.
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It varies from person to person, and probably depends on their mood and circumstances at the time, too. I doubt anyone feels exactly the same way every time.
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