I’d be happy to meet about once a month—should I mention that to the club woman at the outset?

Like you, I see each woman at most once a month. I let every woman know that during our first meeting. Aside from the occasional woman who only wants to date one man, it generally isn’t a major issue. That said, because there’s a longer gap between dates, things tend to fizzle out quickly unless the man is exceptionally gentlemanly.

Like the person asking the question, I see one woman once a month. I let them know that in advance. I make sure to meet them regularly once a month so they feel secure—and so they become part of my regular rotation, haha. It also gives them a stable monthly income, almost like a paycheck, haha. By the way, after meeting a few times and getting closer, I usually learn roughly when they have their periods (they tell me). So I avoid those dates, choose a few possible days, and repeat the process of setting the next meeting date when we meet. I generally have three or four women I see regularly. Once I get a sense of which days of the week—or whether the first half of the month—works best for each woman, I plan our meetings while coordinating everyone’s schedules. Incidentally, some women are more sensitive right before their period or around ovulation, so I keep track of that and take it into consideration when scheduling, haha. I’m enjoying it.

I think it’s fine either way—you can mention it or not. Since you’ve joined a club, you should be able to make a little more time for this, so I don’t think you necessarily need to date a woman who only wants to meet about once a month from the outset. That said, if you already have several women you really like and your schedule is full, then meeting once a month is understandable. Women will generally prefer seeing the same person regularly rather than meeting several different men, so making an effort to accommodate that will likely help you build a closer relationship.

I don’t know whether that’s what you should do, but what if you say that too early on and then change your mind later? As you meet a few more times, you’ll both start to show your true selves, and your impressions of each other may change.