You’d think it would be obvious that fewer men would be willing to accept that…
That said, there are men out there—so-called “kept men”—who don’t mind their girlfriends working in the adult entertainment industry.
If you’re taking full responsibility for your partner’s living expenses, they might be willing to accept it.
If you were told that your father, mother, or boyfriend was doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), what would you think?
I don’t think it’s something you should tell anyone. Personally, I’d take it to the grave.
I once saw post-date feedback from a male member saying something like, “I was surprised when one of the women’s boyfriends came to pick her up.”
That’s probably quite a rare situation, and I imagine many people wouldn’t be comfortable with it.
I think you need to make your decision while also considering the possibility of the relationship ending.
If he’s a great catch and you’re hoping to marry him, you’re better off staying away from it.
If you absolutely need the money, you’ll have to hide it completely, just like Mac says.
> My partner is registered with a dating club.
> Do you think he’d accept the fact that I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
He won’t accept it, so you should absolutely keep it a secret.
The reason he won’t accept it is that most men are narrow-minded. Even if he says, “I’ll love you, including the fact that you do papa-katsu,” it will definitely leave a lasting wound in his heart.
So you have no choice but to lie, but for some men, being lied to hurts more than the fact that you were doing papa-katsu. ← That’s how I am.
It’s not that a woman I’m dating actually did papa-katsu—it’s just a hypothetical situation.
If there were a man who could accept being lied to, he wouldn’t be broad-minded. He’d simply be a liar himself.
I may not look it, but I hardly ever lie.
Also, I think lying is the biggest lasting aftereffect for women who do papa-katsu. You can eventually fix your distorted sense of money, but it’s hard to break the habit of lying.
So what should you do? While you’re doing papa-katsu, lie to your boyfriend. Afterward, erase that dark chapter from your own memory. You may think that’s impossible, but surprisingly, you can do it if you really set your mind to it.
The key is to consciously and completely refuse to recall those unpleasant memories. Don’t put them into words by writing about them in a diary or on social media, or by telling other people.
Putting something into words may make you feel better in the moment, but since you’re recalling the memory, it also fixes it more firmly in your mind.
Actually, this process is similar to “lying.” When you lie, you keep the fact—and the emotions you felt at the time—a secret even from yourself, right?
In other words, if you’re going to lie, do it thoroughly. Lie even to yourself. Does that make sense?
When this starts repeating in a pathological way, it becomes dissociative identity disorder. Your memories disappear on their own, against your will.
The human mind also maintains its balance that way.
> I’m thinking of registering again with a certain club.
> Seriously, would he accept it?
You mean, would your boyfriend accept it?
If so, refer to what I wrote above.
Of course he’d accept the dating club itself.
Everyone has their own way of looking at things, and even when people call someone their partner, the reality of each relationship can be different. People also have different ways of accepting things.
So some may be able to accept it, while others may not.
I’m being completely serious in this answer—do you understand what I mean?
