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Aug 25, 2023 06:17
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🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Maybe the allowance isn’t enough?
I’m the same way, but if you can’t offer a generous allowance, then don’t you just have to accept someone within a certain range?
This isn’t a place for romance, after all. Women probably want to maintain a certain distance too, since they don’t want their papa (male supporter) to catch real feelings.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
The more offers a woman receives, the more selective she can afford to be.
It’s not necessarily that she has anything against men in general; she simply isn’t putting much effort into pleasing you specifically.
She may be much more attentive to men who offer a higher allowance or give her better experiences.
So when you’re dealing with a woman who has a lot of competition, the key is to be patient and stick with it.
If you’re patient, her other male prospects may gradually drop out.
Once that happens, she may start putting more effort into pleasing you.
Alternatively, if you want to find the right woman more quickly, you could approach women who receive fewer offers.
Depending on your own profile, though, you may need to compromise somewhat on looks.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Thank you for your question. I’ll answer as Maezawa as well.
I think it’s the same even with ordinary romantic partners: simply asking for what you want doesn’t always lead to things working out.
For starters, I suggest treating the woman well. Be kind to her, and try to remember how you used to court women in the past, then put those efforts into practice again.
If you’re thinking, “Why do I have to court her when I’m paying her?” then I think you should reconsider that attitude first.
Women aren’t objects. This is still a relationship between two people, so even if you give her an allowance, it’s important to properly court her and treat her kindly.
The allowance is merely meant to bridge the age gap. Giving her an allowance is only the starting line.
There may be some women who don’t understand your feelings, but I think most women will pick up on how you feel, as long as you make the first move.
Be kind to her, take her to nice places, court her properly, and show consideration for her as well.
If you do that, I think she’ll also think about you and make an effort for your sake.
🏅 手コキ評論家
入会して8年。いまだ彷徨中です
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m about to write something so obvious it may surprise you.
I, too, once wandered around like the questioner, searching for my ideal woman. But one day, it suddenly dawned on me: I had already met such an ideal woman.
How did I realize it? I reflected on my past behavior and tried to become the ideal papa (a male supporter) for her. They, too, changed considerably, and these days I’m able to enjoy reasonably satisfying relationships.
In other words, perhaps the ideal woman doesn’t simply come to you—you have to go and seek her out. Of course, you’ll need a gift in hand (money), and I believe more is generally better, but perhaps that isn’t all there is to it—I’d like to think so, anyway.
Why not try knocking on the door yourself, questioner?
しろうさ
Male
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I don’t think that’s necessarily true.
The other person is coming with the intention of seeing where things go, too. Are you treating them properly?
→ If you treat them with sincerity, they’ll respond in kind.
Are you offering a reasonable allowance?
→ Otherwise, they may see you as stingy.
The fact that you’ve met many women also means you’ve parted ways with many women. Take some time to reflect on yourself.
As for what makes me decide to make an offer: I look at things like our food preferences, motivations, hobbies, attitudes toward money, and how we talk in our videos. If we seem to click, I’ll make an offer. After that, it comes down to the impression we make when we meet.
Good luck.
Other
Women who are attractive may also be attentive, but they probably have other papas and are already being treated well by them. So unless you make a much greater effort for her, I think you’ll lose out.
Rather than focusing on whether she’s attractive, look at her eyes in the photos. Some women are beautiful but have eyes like a rotten fish, while others are beautiful and, unused to having their photos taken, are beaming with genuine smiles (like current sex workers). Some even have great smiles because they’ve had their pictures taken by the same staff member many times.
Most men at Universe are probably company presidents, doctors, or otherwise high earners, so you should be able to get a sense of a woman’s personality and vibe from her photos and profile. Look through the profiles again as if you were conducting interviews. I’m sure you’ll find a good one.
If nothing works, go to a soapland. I think they’ll be very attentive to you.
Simply being young, attractive, and wonderful means she already gets plenty of attention from men in her private life. On top of that, she receives lots of offers through the club. So there’s absolutely no benefit for a woman like that to go out of her way for some older guy she’s only just met, especially without any particular reason.
The only reason she’s willing to meet in the first place is because an allowance is involved. So, before anything else, you need to build a relationship as a person:
- Become very close
- Earn a great deal of trust
- Be someone she can truly rely on
I think you need to meet at least those basic requirements. There may be women who offer exceptional service, but truly going out of your way for someone requires genuine feelings, so I don’t think it’s something that comes easily.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
> You don’t seem to have much luck meeting the right person.
If you haven’t been able to meet people naturally and comfortably throughout your life, it’s probably not going to happen now.
Are you someone who can be satisfied simply by being with a woman, or do you expect something from your partner?
Do you want a woman who’s happy just being with you, or one who expects something from you?
It’s not just about the amount of the allowance. There are plenty of papas (male supporters) who are comfortable to be around, who soothe women’s hearts, help them blow off their daily stress, and refresh their energy. Many of them have these qualities naturally, without even realizing it.
When it comes to relationships between men and women, your past experiences probably won’t change dramatically. But nothing will come from focusing only on your own satisfaction—you have to start by considering how the other person feels.
👨 Male
Universe member
Haha, lol.
Even if you try to get close right away, it probably won’t happen that easily. Have you ever dated the same woman for two or three years? As the relationship continues, she’ll start to genuinely think about you and your needs.
I’m also someone who’s initially drawn to looks, but I choose women who prioritize long-term relationships, and I’ve actually stayed with some for two or three years or more.
That said, expecting her to “devote herself to you wholeheartedly” may be asking a bit too much. Are you, the person asking this question, really facing the relationship seriously while looking in the mirror?
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Personally, I find it creepy when someone goes all out for their partner from the very beginning of a relationship. It just comes across as a sales tactic.
I think it’s wrong to expect that from someone in a relationship.
If you go to a soapland, you’re more likely to be with a woman who will go all out for you. So if you want someone to cater to you right away, I think you’re better off going to a soapland.