It’s been a while since we’ve had one of these sex-compatibility questions.
I think people generally just say they’re “compatible” with someone when they had good sex with them.
If a woman is my type looks-wise but the sex isn’t good, I won’t see her a second time. If she’s not my type at all, I won’t even meet her once.
As for the supposed “perfect vagina,” there’s no objective definition of what the vaginal walls have to be like, so I wouldn’t declare someone to have one—or say that they do.
More than the vaginal walls or tightness, I prefer a woman who makes the entire experience enjoyable. Last year, I met a beautiful woman who was exceptionally tight, but that was her only redeeming quality, so I haven’t seen her since. For the record, I didn’t specifically tell her that she was especially tight.
When the sex is great, the conversation often turns to what each of us enjoyed and why during pillow talk, so that’s when I bring it up. Personally, if three or more women specifically praise the same thing about me within a few months, I take that as confirmation that it must be one of my strengths.
First of all, compatibility is something that exists between both people.
From a man’s perspective, it’s nice when a woman’s face is my type, but some women also have a face that looks erotic, and that can be appealing in its own way. Women tend to worry about breast size, but smaller breasts can sometimes give the impression that the pleasure is resonating right down to the bone. There are all kinds of things that can be attractive: a beautifully shaped ribcage, lovely breasts with nipples that perk up and seem to be trying their best, and so on. Then there are her reactions—the way she sweats, her stomach tightening, the quality of her voice, the words that slip out, or the way she reaches for your hand. Some women tighten with their sphincter muscles, while others create suction internally. Their eyes may become dreamy or roll back, their bodies may arch or spasm, and everyone reacts differently when they climax.
As for scent, when I was a child, I read Ryotaro Shiba’s *Fujin no Mon* and developed some very high expectations. But when I finally got to the front lines, all I found were horse girls that smelled like wild animals, so I was deeply disappointed.
Anyway, some people may have a particular thing that really does it for them, and their personal tastes may change depending on the phase they’re going through. But I think most people get hooked through repeatedly experiencing a certain reaction at a certain moment.
Since compatibility works both ways, women probably feel the same. I’m a man, so I can’t say specifically what works for them, though. I think compatibility is when both people naturally get into a good rhythm and things build, without having to discuss or plan it beforehand.
And sex changes its flow every time, doesn’t it? Nobody decides, “We’ll do missionary for five minutes, then switch to rear entry and piston away at 60 rpm for three minutes.” The great thing about being compatible is that even when the sequence changes every time, things still come together naturally. It’s like being able to have a great jazz session together. I can’t play an instrument, so I’m just imagining it, though（笑）
As for a “legendary” partner, I’m not really sure. There was a woman I used to visit at a delivery-based escort service whose vagina had lots of soft, protrusion-like structures inside. I once saw a thread about her on an online forum that said, “○○-chan is a legendary partner,” and I remember thinking, “Oh, I see.” We became close afterward and had sex, but I didn’t feel as much of a difference as her appearance had led me to expect.
Still, although I can’t explain it well, compatibility definitely exists. There are women whose face, figure, and personality may not be my thing at all, but whose compatibility alone is enough to make me want three bowls of rice. I can say without a doubt that the existence of compatibility is more certain than the existence of UFOs.
Taro
Speaking fundamentally, though:
What does compatibility between two people really mean?
What kind of person do you become best friends with?
Someone good-looking?
It’s not something you can make a blanket statement about.
Sexual compatibility also varies from person to person, so I don’t think there’s any one definitive answer.
> If a man thought, “She’s amazing in bed,” would he actually say, “You’re amazing in bed”?
If she really is that good, the man will climax quickly, so I think you can tell even without him saying it.
Although, in one of Akira Narita’s manga based on personal experiences, there was an episode where the woman couldn’t really enjoy herself because the men always climaxed so quickly. Since she thought that was normal for everyone, she didn’t realize she was exceptionally good.
So if every man climaxes within a few dozen seconds of penetration, I think it’s fair to assume you’re exceptionally good.
> Men have often told me, “You’re really tight,” though.
I think there are quite a lot of women who are tight.
It feels like about half of them are that way.
