It’s pretty common to hear women ask for a higher allowance when they go on a trip.
From the man’s perspective, though, I think the allowance should be based not on the amount of time he’s tied up, but on the number of times they have an adult relationship (intimate).
If she wants more for a trip, I’d think doubling the allowance would be reasonable if they do it at night and again in the morning.
I wouldn’t want to travel with a woman who says, “Since I’ll be tied up for twice as long, you should double my allowance.”
“Adult relationship (intimate)” doesn’t necessarily mean unrestricted dating.
There are arrangements where the main goals are intimacy and an allowance. You might still have a meal together, but over time the dates may get shorter—finishing dinner in about an hour, then moving elsewhere, with the whole thing lasting less than three hours. That’s perfectly fine as long as you’re both enjoying yourselves.
On the other hand, some arrangements are basically unrestricted. The papa (male supporter) gives her an allowance, but otherwise they’re just like a regular couple. The woman may act spoiled, sulk, or get angry so freely that you’d almost think she’s forgotten she’s receiving an allowance. That can be enjoyable too, if they’ve ended up in that kind of relationship because both genuinely wanted it, without pretending.
In the end, the problem is when they end up in that kind of relationship even though they don’t actually feel the same way. If a man convinces himself that’s what she wants and keeps taking a woman who isn’t interested on dates, it’s a nuisance for her—but the man who believes it is also unhappy. To be honest, the reverse happens too. I’ve had women suggest all kinds of date plans and take me around to various places even though I wasn’t looking for that kind of relationship. I wouldn’t call it a nuisance, but it did leave me thinking, “What am I supposed to do?”
The solution is to clearly communicate when that isn’t what you want. There are certainly better and worse ways to express it, but not expressing your intentions at all is absolutely not okay.
Taro
I think there are people who want to pay an allowance for an adult relationship (intimate), and others who want to pay an allowance for time spent together without intimacy. The proportion varies from person to person.
I believe sex exists for women’s pleasure—men are the ones who want it and are supposed to enjoy it—and I also find value in simply being with a woman.
So there isn’t much difference between the allowance for dinner only (no intimacy) and the allowance for an adult relationship (intimate).
Also, I think the person asking this question has a mindset more typical of the adult-entertainment industry, or someone very experienced in it.
