I’m the person who asked, “My girlfriend has chlamydia…”
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It turns out the cause was P after all. Apparently, he started seeing another woman in November. It has to be her.
There’s a 99% chance my boyfriend isn’t cheating. He went to an all-boys school and graduated from the University of Tokyo. He’s so expressionless around anyone but me that he practically seems like a samurai. He’s always calm, serious, and composed. I can’t imagine a man who looks like he’s about to collapse because he can’t catch the last train, yet still schedules dates with me three times a week, somehow managing to cheat.
Do people involved in papa-katsu really not get tested for STIs that often? I would never, ever have an adult relationship with a papa without a condom. And yet I’ve gotten chlamydia twice in the past year and a half. Since most men and women with chlamydia show no symptoms, doesn’t that mean the papa-katsu market is basically a breeding ground for STIs? How does everyone protect themselves?
Do you show each other your STI test results every month? You can’t prevent infections otherwise, right? Older men get annoyed when I refuse oral sex, whether giving or receiving.
As a result, I’ve had chlamydia twice in the past year and a half. I’ve also contracted HPV. I developed genital warts and had to endure the pain of having them cut off with scissors, then treated the irritated skin with Bezel cream until it healed. Because of HPV, I’ve also had abnormal cervical cancer screening results and live in constant fear that it could become cancerous. I’m only 20.
I’m quitting this mistress-like arrangement—papa-katsu, or whatever you want to call it—where I stupidly spread my legs for money.
For those of you who have a serious partner, husband, or wife, what benefit does this have that makes it worth exposing someone you care about to these risks?
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> Emotionless toward everyone but me, always calm, composed, and serious.
Hmm? Are you talking about me?
Today, someone again told me, “You look so serious and clean-cut that you don’t look like someone who does papa-katsu.”
Because I’m an extremely busy, serious person, they’re happy that I can easily manage three dates a week—or even dates every day—and make time for them despite my busy schedule (for their sake).
As I wrote in my previous answer:
“If you got infected, you’d be angry with your boyfriend—or at least suspect him—first thing. From a man’s perspective, apologizing without getting angry is more disappointing than shocking.”
And while I was writing that answer, you’d already moved on to the next question.
Also, people value and respect things they themselves can’t do. So if you write here that you graduated from the University of Tokyo, the questioner will probably assume you’re incredibly stupid—at least when it comes to studying.
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Female member, Potassium, here.
I read your question and thought, “You’re young, so you’re being pretty naive.” Having observed people in a circle of similarly inexperienced guys, as well as male friends and ex-boyfriends around the same level, my impression was that you’re seriously underestimating male college students.
I’m not saying this is always the case, but even genuinely innocent guys who grew up in all-boys schools may have friends-with-benefits or have been taken to adult entertainment by their seniors. So you shouldn’t judge people based on labels or backgrounds like attending an all-boys school or university.
The smarter someone is, the more deliberately they’ll act in a convincing way toward a troublesome woman, making sure she believes them.
You still completely believe him, don’t you? Maybe your boyfriend is simply very good at handling things.
Still, what matters is trusting your own feelings about your boyfriend. So if you love him, why not accept that it’s okay even if he betrays you?
Honestly, considering how often you’ve picked up STIs, I thought you were pretty bad at choosing people, judging character, and relationships in general.
To avoid spreading STIs, maybe you should quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and work on improving yourself in other ways.
You’ve used your body too much for money, and now you’re living in fear. What was all that money even for?
If you’re still only 20, there’s hope for you yet.
Being young is nice—your brain hasn’t been worn down by life yet.
Just my opinion. Take care.
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There’s no basis for identifying the cause the questioner suggests.
My vote is that her boyfriend is cheating.
A typical 20-year-old woman wouldn’t know about Beselna cream.
Please quit this activity soon and leave this Q&A site as well.
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Having sex without telling your partner that you know you have HPV is assault, isn’t it? In other words, you were a truly awful person.
I disagree with the claim that allowance-based relationships are breeding grounds for STIs. The reason is that I’ve had sex with a fair number of women over the two and a half years since I registered, and I’ve never once tested positive for anything.
You’ve contracted chlamydia twice in just a year and a half, yet you still have sex with your boyfriend without using condoms. I think that simply means the people around you are the ones creating a breeding ground for STIs.
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