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Jan 27, 2023 14:10
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I found out today that I tested positive for chlamydia. I have one papa (a male supporter) whom I meet once a month with a condom, and a boyfriend I have sex with without a condom about seven times a month.
I bled during sex with my boyfriend, so I went to the gynecologist right away and got tested. The result was chlamydia. I went to a hot spring over New Year’s, so based on the timing, I think that’s the most likely source. My gynecologist said it was possible, although some people say you can’t catch it from a hot spring. There’s also my papa, so I really don’t know how I got infected.
For all I know, I may have already had it almost a year before I started dating my boyfriend.
I apologized and told him I wanted him to go to a urologist as soon as possible, prepared for the possibility that he might break up with me. But he said, “You don’t need to apologize if you didn’t cheat,” “It’s not a big deal if medication can cure it,” and “Don’t worry about it.”
It’s entirely possible that I caught it at the hot spring, but because I feel guilty about having a papa, I feel awful for exposing someone I love to this risk.
Would most people not blame their girlfriend if she got chlamydia? Would you break up with her? Do people generally feel that it’s fine as long as it can be cured with medication?
Also, I’m thinking of sending my boyfriend money to cover his treatment costs. How much would be appropriate? Around ¥30,000?
5 answers
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
The very idea of trying to send 30,000 yen is already far from normal.
It’s sad that they don’t even realize that.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Normally, this is something you’d be angry at your boyfriend about.
The fact that you apologized instead is seriously abnormal—unbelievable, even.
If you got infected, the only possible source would seem to be your boyfriend, so you’d normally press him with, “Are you cheating on me? What the hell is going on?” But you did the complete opposite…
He’s probably thinking, “How many people has she been seeing? She’s apologizing instead of getting mad at me…” and is completely fed up.
Other
Wasn’t the boyfriend cheating and the questioner the one who got infected?
Normally, if you’re dating someone as your girlfriend and he found out you were having adult relationships with other men, he’d be furious, right?
The fact that he isn’t angry… don’t you think that’s strange?
Since they’re both in the wrong, I don’t think any money needs to be sent.
👨 Male
Universe member
I think the general attitude is probably along the lines of, “If it can be cured with medication, then it’s not a big deal.”
There’s an old saying: “The wise stay away from danger.”
You should be careful with your activities.
I don’t think treatment costs should be necessary.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
What does NN mean? Are you a former sex worker?
Everyone has their own opinion on that and will handle it in their own way.