How should I deal with a papa (a male supporter) who’s known as a “maker of mentally unstable women”?
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Apparently, a papa (a male supporter) I recently met was called a “maker of mentally unstable women” by women he’d previously been involved with through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
At first, I had no idea what that meant, but a few days after we started seeing each other, I began to understand. Things were fine up until our first meeting, but once we actually started messaging, his replies suddenly became much slower.
I’m trying to be as patient as possible, but I keep wanting to send follow-up messages… (I actually did it once.)
Honestly, my personal opinion is that no good man is ever called a “maker of mentally unstable women.” That said, he’s intelligent, comes from a respectable family, has a high income, is good-looking, and is young, so I assume there’s plenty of demand for him. Needless to say, he’s married.
Personally, we have good chemistry, his allowance is generous, and I find his personality interesting, so I’m not ready to let him go just yet. Probably just like the women before me who ended up crying and clinging to him.
Have I already fallen into the trap of getting emotionally attached to this papa (a male supporter)? (If so, I’m failing as a papa-katsu girl.)
I’d appreciate any advice.
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I came running when I heard he was a “menhera maker,” but he seems pretty ordinary. Does he basically just get women’s hopes up and then turn cold? I’m not sure how that would supposedly reel them in one after another, but I guess his initial impact must be pretty powerful.
Still, as the questioner says, “the allowance he offered was good,” so I don’t think this guy is even creating menheras, let alone committing romance fraud. If they still realize they’re in it for the money, they won’t become emotionally unstable over him.
There’s no need to become a menhera in the first place. It’s simply a highly tactical matter of figuring out how to keep a man with good terms on the hook.
Taking it a step further and thinking strategically, you’d drop this kind of troublesome man immediately. Strategy means minimizing the fighting—winning without having to fight is the classic approach.
In short, don’t waste your time dealing with annoying guys. Find an easy mark instead.
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Perfect Arly, don’t make the questioner cry.
If you leave them alone, they’ll eventually forget you, so you need to remind them of yourself regularly. I suppose that means pretending you’re genuinely in love with them.
P.S.
I’m starting to feel like having another offline meetup soon. If it’s a small one, do you think it would cause any trouble for Universe Club’s management?
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To make that papa (a male supporter) like you more, I think it’s best to:
- Be meticulous about preventing bad breath and body odor (many girls don’t, so it helps you stand out)
- Work even more on your appearance
- Be very affectionate—almost “menhera”—while you’re together
- Keep your messages matter-of-fact when you’re apart
It’s also a good idea to have a few papas and boyfriends.
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Female member, Potassium here.
It’s not that this papa is a “menhera maker”—the questioner and the PJ dating that papa are simply menhera themselves.
Your mental health isn’t something other people are responsible for; it’s something you need to maintain so you can function in society on your own. If you can’t do that, maybe you should stop getting involved with other people. You just become a hassle for everyone around you.
Blaming others and failing to realize that you were menhera to begin with shows that you’re already incapable of self-reflection.
Ah, so if being a female member chosen by men is part of your personality, then rather than analyzing the papa or the PJ first, I recommend starting by taking a proper look at your own gender.
That’s just my opinion.
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