Is the person asking the question a woman or a man? Judging by the wording, maybe a man?
Are you trying to figure out which kind of woman you’re dating?
It depends on the person. Women who need money or rely on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to get by probably receive plenty of offers, and may keep someone on the back burner until a generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter) comes along.
Women who work regular jobs and just want some extra spending money probably don’t have as many papas.
I’m on the male side, but I wanted to share a few thoughts since I’ve recently been seeing a woman I approached almost every day.
Someone previously used the phrase “the absolute number one.”
Since we see each other so closely every day, you’d naturally assume she’s my absolute number one, and that we’ll continue for years like a Grand Champion. We’re both amazed that we seem to have found such a miraculous, fated connection.
However, the reason I’m able to see her every day is because I already have two unwavering favorites. Using the same Grand Champion analogy, they’re practically guaranteed to remain Grand Champions for more than ten years. So, in reality, the woman I see every day is my third choice.
Because I have those two steady favorites, I don’t need to look for anyone else, and I can focus on enjoying this miraculous connection with her. We started out as a relationship that could end at any time because she was third in line, but after seeing each other more times than I can count, we’ve built a relationship that will likely continue for years, with mutual trust and affection. (You’d think that someone you see almost every day is being valued, right? Well, of course I do value her.)
What I’m trying to say in answer to the question is this:
If a woman receives an allowance and there’s little burden or stress involved, it’s only natural for her to be happy to meet whenever she can.
Whether male or female, when someone isn’t particularly enthusiastic about meeting, phrases like “I’ll contact you again when things settle down” or “I’m busy” are simply polite ways of turning someone down.
Also, people who naturally build trust the longer a relationship continues don’t need backups or someone on hold. They don’t need insurance, and they don’t get distracted by someone else.
At most, their limit is probably three or four people, even if they haven’t consciously set one.
When you have lots of offers, your schedule naturally limits the number of papas you can see.
For me, five pay-per-meeting papas was the maximum.
Some of them were monthly arrangements, but once I found one or two people I really liked, I naturally wanted to spend more time with them.
With people I felt I probably wouldn’t see again, I would just fade out with a “Our schedules don’t seem to line up…” approach, hoping they’d take the hint.
I’m not very comfortable turning people down directly… Plus, many papas from dating clubs are smart, so I felt that most of them understood.
I can’t really say whether I receive a lot of offers, since I have nothing to compare it with…
I haven’t set a specific limit on how many people I continue seeing, but considering my work and private life, I think around five is probably my maximum.
I rarely turn down offers, but I do have certain minimum terms for myself, so I’ll decline if someone offers less than that.
Also, even when the terms are good, things often naturally come to an end if the person’s personality isn’t a good fit or they’re bad at coordinating schedules.
My motto is “keep things stress-free,” and that’s what I value most.
I hope this helps.
