“I was popular when I was younger! You should feel lucky to be intimate with someone like me!” I’m not sure how to deal with a papa (a male supporter) whose pride is through the roof. His allowance is low, too. It’s sad when older men and women can’t accept their age…
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Even when I tell him, “You’re handsome!” he doesn’t react much, so it’s difficult.
What would be the right thing to say?
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Let’s get out of the situation where you feel you have to keep seeing a painfully awkward papa (a male supporter) who barely gives you any allowance.
There’s no point saying anything to people like that, so ignoring them is best.
Someone who was impressive back in the day is probably still impressive now.
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If a man says he used to be popular with women when he was young, just think he’s being pretty pathetic and treat him kindly.
It’s basically the same as admitting that he isn’t popular now…
Accepting your age isn’t as easy as it sounds.
Even if you don’t want to accept it, you gradually come to terms with it as you become aware of all the ways you’re declining.
That man knows he’s not what he used to be, but by being intimate with younger women, he wants to believe he’s still got it.
You’ll understand once you become an older woman yourself.
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He’s hardly worthy of being called “bright.”
For a papa who’s that selfish and unpleasant, block him on LINE and teach him a lesson.
I don’t think you need to force yourself to continue papa-katsu when you’re unhappy.
Not accepting your age is a separate issue from having a bad personality.
Without any awareness of anti-aging, simply accepting your age can make you feel like you’re just going to become a dirty, smelly old person.
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If he says, “I was popular when I was younger! You should feel lucky to be held by a guy like me!” just tell him:
“I really don’t want to hear that from an old man!”
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I’m Potassium. I’m a woman.
As for what to do...
You can’t seriously think a shallow “You’re handsome” is going to fix everything!
He has a huge ego and claims he’s always been popular. And if he’s still seeing the questioner while complaining that her allowance is too low, then maybe his looks aren’t all that bad either.
I don’t think “You’re handsome” is going to work on someone like that. Even beautiful women probably aren’t satisfied just by being told, “You’re pretty.” It’s the same thing.
You’d have to discover some appeal in him that even he hasn’t noticed—something no one has ever told him before—and say something that makes him think, “Wow, I’ve never met a woman like this.” Otherwise, it probably won’t make any impact at all.
As an aside, don’t worry. With the questioner’s mindset as it is now, I think she’ll eventually become just like him.
If you’re in a relationship with someone you feel sorry for, you’re already carrying a contradiction.
That’s just my opinion, though.
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I don’t see how saying, “I was popular when I was younger! You should feel lucky to be with someone like me!” has anything to do with the allowance or with being unable to accept his age.
If he’s the kind of person who makes you want to vent on a Q&A site, I think it’s best not to deal with him.
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If you don’t like him, why not just say goodbye?
I’m sure you must be getting plenty of offers, so you probably feel comfortable badmouthing men without a second thought.
If you’re unhappy, end it sooner rather than later.
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I completely understand how you feel, but I don’t really see why you brought “older women” into this.
Now that I’m older, I’m happier and more fulfilled, both personally and professionally.
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