We had plans to meet, but on the morning of the date, he told me that his parent had collapsed and been hospitalized. I understood and told him to take care. Since he continued replying to my messages as usual, I asked if his parent was okay, and he said they were fine now. We then started discussing what to do going forward, but he said he wanted to wait and see for a while. So I replied, “In that case, I’ll refrain from contacting you for now,” but he answered, “You can contact me anytime!”…
Honestly, if he doesn’t intend to meet, I don’t want to keep messaging him either. But he seems to want to meet, so I don’t know what to do.
This has happened before too: things became vague and we couldn’t finalize any plans. At the time, I told him that if he didn’t intend to meet, we should stop contacting each other, but he ignored that message.
In this situation, what would you female members do?
And to the male members: can you tell what this papa actually wants?
You could also try asking, “Are you free on such-and-such a date?” whenever you happen to have some spare time, even if you don’t expect much. If he’s available, he may agree to meet.
Of course, you don’t need to make him a high priority either, and I think it’s fine to keep your usual messages casual.
In short, you’re both just keeping each other as options.
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It’s probably already been said, but I think he just doesn’t want you to dislike him.
That’s why he tries to sound nice by saying, “You can still message me if you want!” But he doesn’t like you enough to make you a priority, so he keeps things vague instead.
It really sounds like he’s keeping you on the back burner, so I don’t think you need to be especially understanding toward him. That papa isn’t being sincere.
You should look for someone new. I’m sure there’s someone much better out there.
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I also think the “keeping you on the back burner” theory is the most likely.
His schedule may be part of it, or he may simply have ended up seeing more women than expected and started putting you off.
If things don’t work out elsewhere, he may decide he wants to see you again.
For now, it’s probably best to keep things going just enough that you don’t officially part ways, while also looking for other good men.
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Maybe he’s just keeping you on the back burner for now.
If you don’t have any other papa supporters, why not send him a quick message whenever you feel like it?
If you don’t want to, just block him.
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Maybe they just want to meet whenever it’s convenient for them and enjoy chatting on LINE for free. If it’s a hassle, there’s no allowance involved, so I think it’s fine to ignore them.
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I’m a female member, Potassium.
If I’m not bored, I just leave them alone.
If I am bored, I’ll chat with them to pass the time.
That’s just my personal opinion.
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