The Q&A box lets you choose who you want to answer: anyone, representatives, stats members, male members, female members, back-office staff, or column writers.
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Ignoring that, why do some people disregard the questioner’s request and answer anyway, instead of leaving it to the person the questioner specifically asked to respond?
Answerers must be tired too, so if they aren’t the kind of person the questioner wants to hear from, wouldn’t it be okay not to answer?
Is it because they feel a sense of responsibility?
If there’s no specific request for an answerer, wouldn’t it be okay to leave the question unanswered?
Whenever someone asks a question, I often see answers saying, “It seems like you don’t really need to ask this.”
Is this an answer box where the questioner’s request is simply ignored?
The people I want answers from are experienced veterans with a depth and writing ability that I don’t have.
They may say some harsh things, but answers from imaginative, experienced people—and from beginners in similar situations—are helpful to me.
I’m looking for answers from people who will think about the issue sincerely, even if they have to be tough on the questioner.
Otherwise, the opinions of answerers who say things like “You didn’t need to ask this” come across as arrogant.
The answerers may be veterans, but the questioners are beginners.
Makeo, I looked, but there weren’t nearly enough clues, so I couldn’t figure it out…
To the person who asked the question: we’re answering as volunteers, so this is really about helping each other❀
Sometimes someone else’s perspective makes you think, “Oh! I never looked at it from that angle!”
That’s part of what makes this Q&A site valuable—and a learning experience.
By the way, when I was asking questions myself, I got scolded by all kinds of people too (lol). Keep that between us, okay? w
I thought I’d explained my situation clearly, but people would say things like, “Did you really need to mention that?” (/・ω・)/ Meow!
But after becoming an answerer myself, I started thinking, “Well, I can understand why they felt like writing that.”
I realized firsthand that answering questions isn’t easy either.
Now that I’m an answerer, I may have said some harsh things without really knowing the full story.
If that’s the case, I’m sorry.
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I’m sorry if there are so many typos that I’ve misunderstood your point and written something completely off base…
Most answerers are current or former members themselves, and everyone has a different style of dating, as well as different circumstances regarding their allowance, ages, and ways of thinking. Of course, we also receive no compensation for answering.
That’s why the answers can vary, and sometimes people may even express completely opposite opinions.
I try to answer as thoughtfully as possible, but when I see people give blunt, cutting responses, I sometimes find myself envying their writing skills and courage.
What I’m trying to say is:
- Since we aren’t paid, any answer is fine as long as it doesn’t suggest anything that violates public standards of decency or the law.
- Answerers are human too, so everyone has their own perspective.
- Isn’t having all kinds of opinions what makes this fun?
- I basically want to be kind, but I’m only human, so sometimes I get angry or annoyed. When that happens, please be patient and watch over me kindly.
- When asking a question, let’s try to watch out for typos.
That’s all.
I really enjoy being an answerer. Through all the different questions and responses, I get to learn a wide range of perspectives, deepen my knowledge beyond papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and feel as though I’m doing a little charity work and earning some good karma. That makes me happy.
To everyone who asks questions and everyone who answers them, thank you from the bottom of my heart, with an extra-large dose of love.
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Hmm… I didn’t really understand.
If the answers aren’t helpful to you, you don’t have to take them as a reference.
You can simply think, “That perspective is different from mine,” or “That doesn’t suit me.”
Still, asking different people and hearing various perspectives can be interesting. Sometimes you learn or understand things you wouldn’t have thought of on your own.
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It may actually be nice that things have quieted down a little.
Answering questions is partly volunteering, but honestly, about 80% of it is for the responders’ own entertainment.
We enjoy answering, so we’ll be here when you’re ready.
Anyway, feel free to skip over this.
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I’m a female member, Potassium.
I can understand what you’re saying—or maybe I can’t.
Speaking for myself, when I give an answer that implies, “You won’t find the answer here,” it’s because even if you hear opinions from other respondents, you can’t truly know what the man or woman involved is thinking. Rather than being swayed by other people’s opinions, I think you should trust your own intuition and face the person you’re dealing with directly. It’s probably just me being meddlesome.
Anything the questioner can write in this Q&A box is only a small part of what they actually experienced, so I think it’s extremely difficult to find the other person’s true feelings in the answers here.
That said, if there happens to be a respondent with a similar perspective, you might find an answer that helps. In that sense, gathering lots of answers—including from people the questioner didn’t specifically ask—can occasionally be useful.
In fact, sometimes the person who knew the answer the questioner really wanted was someone they never expected.
Still, after reading your opinion this time, I learned that some people are very particular about exactly who they want answering their questions. So I’ll try, as much as possible, to respond only when I’m among the people the questioner wants to hear from.
Well, I did pay at least a little attention to that already...
Lately, though, I’ve been getting irritated when people ask questions here without searching, even though many similar questions have already been posted. I enjoy being a respondent, so I can’t really complain, but I honestly can’t understand how people feel nothing about asking something that they could easily find by looking it up.
So lately, I’ve stopped answering repeated questions.
That’s just my personal opinion.
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The people I’d like to hear answers from are simply my preference. There’s no rule saying that anyone else isn’t allowed to respond.
> “Wouldn’t it be better not to answer?”
I think it’s fine not to answer questions that are especially odd or have no real point. But everyone is so kind that they seem to feel compelled to respond.
As the questioner said, if no one answered, the question itself could be hidden, so I think that would be better.
> “It feels arrogant.”
Then why not ask somewhere you don’t find arrogant? You don’t have to be so fixated on Universe—there are other places where you can ask questions.
There’s no need to force yourself to ask here.
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This feels like the right time for me to retire as an answerer.
Whenever I answer, it seems to hurt the other answerers in particular, so I figured it was time to call it quits.
It’s only been a little over a year, but thank you all for everything.
I was happy to receive a reverse offer from someone who called themselves a fan at the end.
Take care, everyone ♡
P.S.
I’ve set my profile to “公開” (public). I’ll reach out to a few people who send me a like with a message and seem like we’d click.
If you correctly guess that I’m “Make-Otoko-san” when we meet, I’ll add a little extra to your allowance♪
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