Whether you’re beautiful or unattractive,
whether your heart is pure or troubled,
you can still be happy.
Happiness is something you feel within yourself. No one else can bring it to you. If you feel happy, then you are happy, regardless of what people around you may say or think.
I’m not sure what you mean by having a “poor heart,” but if you do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) here, find a papa (a male supporter) you’re comfortable with, and gain some financial breathing room, maybe you’ll feel a little happier.
Why not take it one step at a time and find happiness in small ways?
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What kind of question is this??
That’s obvious.
Don’t waste the readers’ time—or anyone else’s…
Ugh, I ended up replying even though I didn’t even feel like answering…
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I don’t think appearance is everything?! Maybe it’s all about how you look at things!
If you’re attractive, you’ve probably benefited from it or had good things happen because of it, so you can just see that as being lucky. Even something small, like, “The train connections worked out perfectly today—lucky me!” If you can find happiness in little things, isn’t that what matters?
I’m just an ordinary person, but I’m happy enough in my own way.
Of course, there are things I’d like to improve or ways I wish my life could be—but that’s separate.
I think even changing your mindset a little can make a big difference!
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I’m a female member, Potashium.
I don’t think you can.
To start with, I believe emotional richness (happiness) is something invisible, so it can’t be directly obtained from things that deteriorate over time, such as beauty, money, or brand-name goods.
Emotional richness (happiness) is probably determined by whether all the categories on your personal, invisible radar chart—love, self-esteem, kindness, knowledge, and so on—are above the average line you’ve unconsciously set for yourself.
I wonder if the reason you currently feel emotionally impoverished is that you’re fixated on something that will eventually disappear—your beauty—and thinking, “Would I be happy if I were beautiful?” Maybe it’s because your own emotional radar chart isn’t balanced yet...
Why not start by collecting the things that make up your emotional radar chart—things that aren’t physical and won’t disappear during your lifetime, such as experience and knowledge?
*Beauty and money can fill in parts of that radar chart indirectly. That’s why earning money or getting cosmetic surgery may make you feel temporarily fulfilled.*
What really matters, I think, is how you turn the money or beauty you gain into emotional nourishment—something that will remain even after the money or beauty is gone.
And if hearing the opinions here makes you interested in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and you decide to start, please don’t push yourself into papa-katsu that chips away at your self-esteem just to earn money.
This was such a profound question that it really made me think.
Thank you.
It may sound religious and painfully earnest, but I’m not religious—this is just my personal theory.
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If having a poor heart means feeling that you aren’t happy, then even if you are actually happy, you wouldn’t feel that way yourself—so I don’t think you could truly consider yourself happy.
People do talk about having a rich or poor heart, but in the end, I think it comes down to whether you feel that you’re happy.
Also, thinking only in terms of being happy or unhappy seems too extreme. It may be better to remember that there’s also such a thing as being “ordinary” or simply okay.
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Hello!
Kosaka from the club staff here—I’d like to answer as well!
These are lyrics from a certain singer:
“Happiness is something you have to find for yourself.”
Listening to this song helps Kosaka stay positive!
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You can’t be happy because you’re constantly telling yourself you want to be happy.
That’s because saying “I want to be happy” also means telling yourself, “I’m not happy right now.” It’s a form of self-suggestion. Unless you realize that, you can’t break free from it, so it’s better not to think, “I want to be happy.”
“Being poor in spirit” is similar—you’re defining and labeling yourself.
I don’t know what lies at the root of your feelings, but for example, even a very attractive woman may grow up lacking confidence in her appearance if her mother repeatedly tells her, “You’re ugly.”
At first glance, it seems like the mother is at fault. But the daughter has taken those words as a trigger and continued repeating that self-suggestion to herself. The initial trigger may come from someone else’s words, but the real question is how to escape the spell of those words that continue echoing inside you.
Think about it carefully. The word “happiness” exists, and that’s why its opposite, “unhappiness,” exists too.
Let go of the word “happiness” itself. Then, for example, when you wake up in the morning and the sunlight looks beautiful through the curtains, you might feel a little happy. That is what “happiness” truly is.
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Even if someone is incredibly wealthy or beautiful, I feel that people who are emotionally impoverished or prone to anxiety aren’t really very happy.
Marika
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Even if you’re emotionally impoverished, having your financial needs met can make you happy to some extent.
I’ve experienced poverty myself, so I’ve felt firsthand how much money can make people happy—so much so that I sometimes wonder whether there’s anything in this world that money can’t solve. People who grew up privileged probably wouldn’t understand.
So rather than worrying about emotional poverty and all that, work hard and stabilize your life.
If you don’t have enough money, you could consider doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) on the side.
Once you have enough money, your emotional poverty will be alleviated considerably. Only then will you realize that there really is happiness money can’t buy.
You’re free to turn away from money and argue that “there are things money can’t buy,” but I think that will eventually leave you feeling empty. There’s a limit to how much you can deceive yourself.
Ace, who had a huge amount of debt, told me that meeting me and having me pay off her debt had completely changed her life. Even though she looked perfect on the outside, she had been driven to the brink by her debt and had apparently even contemplated suicide.
I’m sure “it completely changed my life” included a fair amount of service talk directed at me. But you can tell just by looking at her expression. She really had been pushed to the limit.
What is money, anyway? I feel like I understand it, and then I don’t… I understand it, and then I don’t…
P.S. If the question had been, “I have both looks and money, but I’m emotionally impoverished,” my answer would probably have been different.
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