I’ve heard that some women list their estimated support amount as 10 on their profile. Does that mean 10 per meeting?

I was asked about it during my interview and answered, but I don’t remember what I said. I think it was that insignificant of a question. None of the men who made me offers have ever brought it up. That said, when my monthly papa asked me, “How much would it take for you not to look for anyone else?” I answered honestly. I figure it’s fine as long as you can discuss it with the person you’re actually seeing. But when I asked the staff what the question was really meant to determine during the interview, they told me it was to see whether I was a reasonable, sensible person（笑).

Hi! At first, I wrote 100 because I didn’t really know how it worked, haha. Someone told me that wasn’t right, so I changed it to 10. But that doesn’t mean I’m expecting to receive 10.

It’s the amount you’re hoping for per month. In videos, clubs ask things like, “How much would you like per month?” or “How much monthly support would make you happy?” If you say ¥100,000, does that mean ¥100,000 pay-per-meeting, or ¥50,000 each from two supporters? Since dating clubs aren’t allowed to list specific allowance amounts, you end up asking vaguely and getting vague wording in return. Apparently, some women aren’t asked about it at all.

Maezawa’s comment is spot-on ♡ Please say more like that to those not-so-bright papas who flaunt their wealth while offering a low allowance ♪ That’s what an old lady was saying while enjoying the shade. Not me, okay? > Even if you’re wearing a watch worth tens of millions of yen, > and someone says ¥100,000 is too expensive, > I think it’s not that ¥100,000 is expensive— > they simply don’t see any value in it. > > If ¥100,000 is too expensive in the first place, > you should be wearing a watch that costs around ¥10,000 or less. > And this doesn’t just apply to watches...

In my case, I believe I was asked, “How much support would you like per month?” Since you’re a woman, I assume that’s what you were asked as well, right? I remember saying 5, but I also recall being told, “It could be more… 10 or even 20.” I was so nervous during the interview that I don’t remember what amount I ultimately said.

If the amount of the allowance has already been decided, then you can’t really write about it. It’s precisely because it can be interpreted in different ways that it’s something you can write about. Women who understand why are probably thinking the question itself is meaningless. Smart women will answer, “30,000 yen.” Even if the man responds, “Wait, is your monthly goal 30,000 yen?” she can simply say, “That amount is enough for me.” Then, when she actually goes on a date with a man and he invites her to a hotel and asks, “How much would you like?” she might answer: “I’d be happy if you could do 70,000 yen.” The man may think, “That’s different from what you said your goal was,” but regardless of what goal she has, this is a matter of free romance. The allowance is to be decided between the two people, and the club doesn’t interfere. If either person isn’t satisfied, they can simply end things. Even if the man says she lied, that monthly goal may have been for dinner only (no intimacy). It wouldn’t be strange for her to consider it differently when there’s an intimate relationship involved. So there’s also a certain amount of strategy involved in thinking about how to get an offer from a man. Women who notice that can make use of it. That said, the approach above isn’t necessarily the best one. You need to consider the man’s personality and character as a whole and decide whether it’s better to leave the amount of allowance up to him. Sometimes, your ability to judge men makes all the difference. > Do staff members feel that a woman who requests 100,000 yen pay-per-meeting at the interview has a distorted sense of money? I wouldn’t say that 100,000 yen means she has a distorted sense of money. However, there are new graduate staff members, including people who joined last year, and younger staff with little life experience may feel that 100,000 yen is an enormous amount and think her sense of money is distorted. You almost want to ask whether a 100,000-yen black-tier setup fee is really okay, but perhaps it’s understandable given their limited life experience. Of course, there are probably men in their 40s or 50s who would say, “100,000 yen is expensive too.” I understand that—100,000 yen isn’t objectively cheap. But if someone wears a watch worth tens of millions of yen and still says 100,000 yen is expensive, I think the issue isn’t that 100,000 yen is expensive; it’s simply that they don’t see the value in it. If 100,000 yen really is too much, then they should wear a watch that costs no more than around 10,000 yen. And that applies to more than just watches. So if someone sees the value but genuinely can’t afford it, that simply means their income is too low, and that’s understandable. In that case, though, I think they should avoid using a dating club. They should put their precious money toward living expenses.

From the content of the question, I assumed it was from a man, but you’re actually a female member. If a woman who lists her expected support as 10 says, “I meant 10 per meeting,” I think the men would be surprised. There’s a good chance that could lead to a poor rating. Also, if you tell the club staff that you’re looking for an allowance of 10 on a pay-per-meeting basis, they’d probably describe you as having unrealistic expectations—or simply write, “On the higher side.”

It could mean 10 per meeting, or 10 in total per month. Either way, it may simply be the benchmark when dealing with an ideal papa, so there are various ways to interpret it. I see it as nothing more than a rough reference. Also, even if there are women who want 10 per meeting, I don’t think that necessarily means they’ve lost touch with the value of money. Some men will accept those terms, some will decline because they don’t work for them, and some will offer more—that’s all it is. So I can understand why some people might feel that certain women have become desensitized to money. Whether it’s Black, Platinum, Gold, or Standard, I’ll give 10 per meeting if I feel that’s appropriate. But if she tries to negotiate, or if she isn’t the kind of woman I’m looking for in the first place, I probably wouldn’t give 10 per meeting regardless of her class.

Since it doesn’t say pay-per-meeting, I assume that’s the amount she wants per month. If she means once a month, that would be equivalent to 10 per meeting. I don’t think class and allowance are related. Adding this after reading Maezawa-san’s answer: As they say, “the method above isn’t necessarily the best one,” so I don’t think using that method will always lead to more offers. For example, if a woman’s target amount for monthly support is too low, I’d hesitate to make her an offer. Unless her profile was someone I was especially interested in meeting, I probably wouldn’t make an offer.