I’m wondering if there’s some way I can express my everyday gratitude to my cherished papa (a male supporter). We usually see each other almost every week and message on LINE. I always say thank you when he does something for me. I actually want to express my feelings more, but I’m too embarrassed and can’t put them into words well… So I was thinking of telling him how I feel in a letter. By the way, my papa is single, but to the men here: if you were single, would receiving a letter be a bother? I feel that I could express my feelings more honestly and wholeheartedly in a letter than by telling him in person. I would be very happy to receive a letter myself, but I was wondering whether some people dislike getting them, so I wanted to ask.
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Hikōki-san, thank you for your answer!
That’s true—during our usual time together, I think my feelings probably come across to some extent. As for our physical compatibility… we’re still figuring that out, so I’d like us to keep improving together so that he can feel satisfied.
Dai-san, thank you. You don’t usually write letters to someone when you can’t say things face-to-face unless you really love or care about them, so that’s a lovely memory♡ You may be right that using the word “love” in a papa-katsu relationship feels a little off. Maybe I’m starting to like him as a man, rather than simply as my papa. I’ll think carefully and choose my words more thoughtfully.
Marika-san, thank you♡
I’m surprised you don’t like writing. Your answers are always so spot-on, so I assumed it was something you were good at. I thought the men might respond with things like, “That’s creepy,” “You’re too intense,” or “I don’t know what to do with this,” but everyone has been so kind… that’s how I feel.
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I can’t bring myself to write letters because I feel embarrassed doing it. I’m just not cut out for it.
I don’t like writing.
I was surprised by how many men said they’d be happy to receive a letter.
…I still won’t write one, though (lol).
But I do have nice handwriting.
Marika
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My ex-wife loved writing letters, so I used to receive a lot of them.
As long as they’re heartfelt, I’m happy with anything.
That said, I also understand that this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so even if one of the women I’m currently seeing told me she “liked” me, I don’t think I could fully believe it.
There are women I’ve been seeing for over a year, so I do understand that they’re meeting me because they genuinely want to see me, but…
For that reason, I also try not to use words like “I like you” with the women I meet through papa-katsu.
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If he’s single, I think he’d be happy to receive a letter as well.
But more than that, if your everyday satisfaction and facial expressions convey something special, I think you’ll both feel strongly that you’re special to each other—and be happy.
Even without words or letters, you can show that he’s your one and only papa (a male supporter), or that he’s someone special to you.
In reality, it’s gratifying to be the only one for that papa, to want to see him every two or three days, or to feel needed as someone special to him.
Also, more than anything, physical compatibility is important. There’s no greater joy than seeing that look of pure bliss as you both try to reach the same climax, or the fulfilled expressions you share afterward.
If you can convey your feelings through those expressions—and feel that they’re getting the message across—I don’t think words or letters are necessary.
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Thank you all for your answers!
Make Otoko, I was really happy not only that you took the time to answer, but also to read what you had to say (^‑^). It was very encouraging. Our anniversary is coming up soon, and although I was feeling anxious, I’m going to put my heart into preparing something that conveys how grateful I am to my papa and how much I love him ♡
Kazu, I see! Knowing that it would make you happy makes me happiest of all, so your answer gave me the courage I needed (^^)
Date◎Yume, thank you for your answer. He’s a special papa to me, so I hope we can continue seeing each other for a long time, just like you and your partner have ♡
Fuu, thank you. It’s a little embarrassing to say this myself, but we really do have a close relationship ♡ From now on, I’ll continue paying close attention to his feelings and make sure I don’t get carried away.
Mac, thank you for the specific advice! Our anniversary is coming up soon, and I was thinking of giving him a present and a letter. Your advice was very helpful. I’m not good at expressing my feelings in words, and I can never think of anything beyond the usual clichés. But I thought that if I wrote it by hand and put my heart into it, even a little of my deep gratitude for all his help might come across. At the same time, I was worried that putting those feelings into a letter might seem too intense to a man.
I’m sure your girlfriend also wanted to give something back to you to show how grateful she was for all the help you gave her. Thank you for sharing such a lovely story!
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It’s been a while since we’ve had such a heartwarming question—love it.
If he’s single, I think a letter would be a nice idea. You two already seem like you’re dating—so sweet.
I’d suggest matching your approach to your papa’s level of enthusiasm.
If he’s not looking for anything that serious, you may need to avoid pushing further and give him some space...
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Are you a single papa? Is it kind of a mix between being a papa and a boyfriend? Either way, you’re one of the few big winners in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). That’s wonderful. I hope my monthly partner will feel the same way about me as Misaki does about you.
Ace always gives me a letter expressing her gratitude on special occasions. It makes me really happy. There’s something lovely about a girl’s handwritten words, isn’t there?
Unless you’re exceptionally good at putting your feelings into words, saying it directly doesn’t usually go very well, so I think a letter is the best option when it comes to a single papa.
Be confident, put your heart into it, and tell him how grateful you are. I’m sure it’ll work out.
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