When having sex with a female member for the first time, is the allowance for an adult relationship (the first time) usually determined based on her rank (B, C, or D)?

I don’t base it on the type of relationship. In my case, I probably only have women I’m exclusively seeing. I decide based on whether the amount is enough for them to live comfortably. Right now, I only have long-term arrangements. Mac, you’re way too insatiable… I’d say about eight times a month for me.

I’ve never even thought about it that way. Personally, I take every woman on dates for the same allowance. It’s not that everyone can do B > C > D in that order; the type simply determines what’s possible. My impression is that B-type women see fewer men than C- or D-type women, so the relationship feels less transactional. I once made an offer to an A-type woman, and it seemed like we could become intimate after three or four dates, but she gave off a slightly intense vibe, so I decided not to pursue it.

In my case, the allowance offered when I was invited varied from person to person. I found it difficult when someone said, “Tell me how much you’d like—I’m fine with any amount.” I didn’t feel confident enough to name a high amount when I wasn’t sure I could make things enjoyable for them. The people I turned down weren’t rejected because of the allowance, so I think it would be best for you and the woman to discuss it carefully and decide together.

I don’t think there are any set rules. Everyone simply has their own standards. I just give the amount I feel like giving to the girl I want to support, so it varies from person to person.

There are no unspoken rules, but I think you can figure out a reasonable approach. For example: Women in the Black class can only be offered to men in the Black class. Black-class men prioritize meeting wonderful women over saving the ¥200,000 difference between the ¥300,000 membership fee and the ¥100,000 fee for the next tier down. In other words, they’re the kind of men who don’t mind paying ¥300,000 if it means meeting a great woman. So if a man thinks a woman is wonderful, he won’t necessarily feel that the amount is excessive, even if it seems high by ordinary allowance standards. That’s the basic idea: if he sees value in her, he naturally feels that paying is worthwhile. To use cars as an analogy, if someone asked me to pay ¥10 million for a Toyota Vitz, I wouldn’t want to. But I might readily pay ¥10 million for a Ferrari—or even think, “Only ¥10 million? That’s cheap.” If you’re not interested in sports cars, a Magic Mirror van would work too. (笑) The key point is: you pay when you feel the value is there. If a man wants to date a Black-class woman, he should assume that there are other men like that as well. He should determine the allowance based on whether he has anything besides the allowance that gives him an advantage over those men. With that in mind, the basic approach is to first decide how much you’d be willing to pay the woman—how much value you feel she has—and treat that as your upper limit. Then ask how much she wants. If her desired amount exceeds your limit, it’s time to walk away. Trying to haggle doesn’t seem very gentlemanly. With this way of thinking, it’s perfectly normal for the allowance to vary from woman to woman. Even celebrities receive different appearance fees, and employees at companies don’t all earn the same salary; it varies depending on their experience, position, and so on. Of course, there may be companies where every employee earns the same amount, but I’ve rarely heard of them, so they must be quite uncommon. By this point, I think you probably have a general idea of how to decide on the allowance. The basic rule is simple: Offer an allowance that matches the other person’s value.

There aren’t any particular rules, but: A > B > C = D That’s basically how I see it. Women who are type A might get upset with me, but even with type A, things usually end up developing into an adult relationship at the woman’s request, so I include type A as well. *I’ve never made an offer to a type D woman. The reason type A women receive higher allowances—or rather, why I set them higher—is that with type A, I’m usually the only papa (a male supporter) they have. There are genuinely very few men who make offers to type A women. The reason B is higher than C is similar. I know the number of offers is about the same for B and C, but I feel that fewer papas tend to remain with type B women (just my personal impression), so I pay B a little more. That said, it’s only about ¥10,000 more. If D is 10, then C is 11 and B is 12, so to speak. On the other hand, I think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with paying D more, as the person asking this question does. It can also be a way of showing respect to women who come prepared to take that step. By the way, I imagine the answer you’d get from a papa who pays average allowances would be: “Everyone gets the same allowance. I don’t think it’s right to discriminate between women.” That’s one valid way of thinking, so I have no particular objection. I’m sure they also adjust the number of meetings so that it’s the same for everyone.

That’s not a rank; it’s a dating type. As far as I know, there are no formal or unwritten rules regarding allowances. Personally, I do think it’s better to agree on the allowance—including the details—before going to a hotel, and to hand it over before anything begins so the woman feels less anxious. But that’s not a rule.