I recently joined the club, but because of personal circumstances, the days and hours when I can meet are limited. I explained this during my interview, and it’s also listed in my profile, but most of the offers I receive are for dates and times when I’m unavailable.
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I feel bad having to turn down so many offers.
Do male members send offers without really looking at the female members’ profiles?
Also, for the other female members here—if your availability is limited, have you still been able to meet someone you clicked with and continue seeing them afterward?
I’d appreciate your advice!
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As Maezawa-san mentioned, perhaps it’s a “nothing to lose” kind of request after all…
I’m also a female member with a limited schedule, and I sometimes get asked about dates that don’t work for me.
When that happens, rather than simply turning them down, I try to suggest an alternative myself: “The ___ won’t work for me, but how about the ___?”
(This approach can be useful anywhere, not just with club activities.)
Fortunately, the papa (male supporter) I’m seeing is willing to work around my schedule, so we’ve been enjoying and continuing our dates together♪
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Quite a few people probably ask even when they know it may be a long shot.
I have limited availability, but I’ve been able to find people I can build a good relationship with within those limits.
In my case, though, I’m available at different times depending on the day—weekday afternoons, weekday evenings, weekend afternoons, and weekend evenings—so I may be easier to match with than someone who’s only available weekday afternoons or weekends, for example.
Marika
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I make offers after reading someone’s profile, so that doesn’t happen with me. If she’s really my type, I’ll make time to fit her schedule.
There seem to be a lot of careless people on apps, but I suppose there are still a certain number of them at dating clubs too. Since dating clubs are businesses, I imagine that as long as someone pays the membership and annual fees, they can register unless they’re completely unreasonable during the interview.
In the business world, there are plenty of older people who are difficult and say things like, “I’m paying you, so you should accommodate me.” I suppose it’s the same kind of thing.
In most cases, people like that are no good, so there’s probably no need to accommodate them. That said, there are ways to handle them skillfully and quietly get as much out of them as possible, so if you know how to deal with them, it can be worth doing.
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Men sometimes like to take a “nothing to lose” approach.
Even when something is clearly stated in a woman’s profile, they may still think, “Maybe she just happens to be available this one time,” and make an offer anyway, figuring they have nothing to lose if she says no.
That said, they usually only do this with women they’re especially attracted to. So it’s probably best to think of “nothing to lose” offers as something that happens when there’s a particular reason they really want to ask her out.
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I think it really depends on the person.
Some people will make an offer right away based on little more than a photo, body type, and relationship type.
Others want more information than what’s in the profile, so they’ll email or call the staff.
Personally, I have a monthly arrangement, and things tend to work out better with women who have limited availability.
We coordinate our schedules and meet at a comfortable pace.
I hope you find a great partner too!
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