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Jun 11, 2022 09:53
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🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
You could simply ask, “Would you lick it?” If oral sex is off-limits, they’ll probably tell you they don’t want to.
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Other
“Subtly,” huh? lol
If you want her to do something, just ask properly. My papa (a male supporter) asked me, so I’ve been doing my best and learning various things from him! Even a girlfriend can’t be expected to know what you want without you saying anything. You should also make an effort to ensure the person you’re seeing feels good!
Other
I don’t have that much experience, but looking back, things naturally ended up that way.
Maybe it was simply because my partners happened to be that type, and since it all happened so naturally, I honestly don’t know what specific actions led to it. I’ve also met girls who said they had little dating experience, though that was self-reported.
As everyone else has said, it might be best to let them know early on.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m not sure why you’d want to bring it up subtly, but ultimately, it’s a man’s ego. (Though it may be different if the woman genuinely wants to do it herself.) I think it’s best to ask humbly.
Since you’re only asking, if she says she doesn’t want to, you should probably accept that and move on.
And if you find that unsatisfying, you could always look for a more proactive woman.
👨 Male
Universe member
Subtlety is difficult, isn’t it?
I’m the same way—I’d be too embarrassed to say it outright.
So here’s a foolproof method:
Why not try lying on your back, naked…?
And if they still don’t seem interested, subtly move closer little by little, working your hips toward their mouth!
They move away, you follow.
They move away, you follow.
Predict which way they’ll go and get your hips there first.
Wow, sounds like fun（笑)
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
It’s not like this is a brothel, so it’s perfectly fine if she doesn’t give you oral.
If you’re genuinely attracted to her, some women will do it and some won’t.
Let’s just let things build naturally as both people get into it—there’s no need to ask for anything.
Sex should be about the woman, so let’s start with making sure she feels comfortable and good.
As Makeo-san wrote:
> Women don’t want to have sex with their papa in the first place.
Even if things turn out just a little better than expected, she’ll become much more receptive. That goes for oral or anything else…
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
With a friends-with-benefits partner, women will naturally initiate oral sex, but that’s basically impossible in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Papa-katsu isn’t about sex in the first place. If anything, most women would rather not sleep with their papa (a male supporter), so expecting them to initiate oral sex is a pipe dream.
That said, there have been PJ girls who gave me oral without me even asking. Without exception, though, they were on the verge of developing serious feelings. It’s flattering, but it also sets off a “watch out for genuine feelings” alarm, so I become a little guarded.
Update:
During pillow talk with one of my monthly arrangement partners, we got really fired up about the “friends-with-benefits is the best” theory. Since the relationship is centered around sex, of course it’s great.
There’s no awkward aftermath, none of the hassle of someone catching serious feelings, and no need to keep messaging on LINE. You just meet up and let each other fully satisfy your desires—it really is a perfectly logical arrangement.
Update 2:
Lounge hostesses who are dating someone will give oral without even being asked. Come to think of it, some even say, “I want to taste you!” In other words, outside of papa-katsu, women will go down on you without you having to say anything.
Other
I’m still inexperienced myself and have plenty to learn, so I’d really appreciate it if you could tell me what you’d like me to do differently. I’ll do my very best if you let me know.
That’s why I think it would be helpful for you, too, to clearly tell the other person what you’d like from them.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If it were me, I wouldn’t try to be subtle—I’d just honestly ask her to give me oral. If she wasn’t experienced, I’d gently explain what to do, too.