When I went on an adult date with a woman from Osaka, she turned on Yoshimoto Shinkigeki on the hotel TV.
I told her I couldn’t concentrate when things got intimate, but she wouldn’t listen, so we went ahead with the comedy playing in the background.
This happened the second time we met.
The third time was the same, and it was quite an ordeal.
Do any of you ever feel that the other person starts putting in less effort as you continue seeing each other, compared with the first meeting?
If that happens, and a man feels it would be a shame to simply fade out, does he ever do anything about it?
Have any women ever thought, “He went out of his way to do this for me, so I’ll try a little harder”?
> This question is about a papa in his 50s playing random music on Apple Music during intimacy.
> Once you’ve met a couple of times, this may sound crude, but depending on the man’s frustrations—feeling that she was putting in less effort than during the first meeting, becoming convinced that she was only going through the motions, or feeling that you never really grow closer no matter how many times you meet—I think there are times when he may find himself thinking, “I don’t even want to give her ¥50,000.”
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Hmm, I also moved from the Chubu region to Kansai, but I still haven’t seen Yoshimoto Shinkigeki yet.
Maybe she’s really, really into comedy?
If comedy is the BGM, it kind of kills the mood, doesn’t it? (´；ω；｀)
In my view, if a woman is bored or dissatisfied, she simply shouldn’t meet up. But if she does agree to meet, shouldn’t she make an effort to enjoy the time together? I always think that’s just common sense…
Wouldn’t you feel bad being so blatantly half-hearted about it?
So I think you should make offers to other women and find someone who genuinely clicks with you and is sincere〜(>_<)
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You’re a male member, right?
Wouldn’t it be enough to just say, “I don’t like it, so let’s turn off the TV”?
What’s stopping you from doing that?
If she’s the kind of woman who would argue with you over turning off the TV, end things and move on.
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Maybe she’s just embarrassed to make any noise in a quiet place and wants to have something playing on TV for background sound.
When a woman is having a hard time, it’s important to consistently make time for her.
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I’m not sure why she puts on a comedy show, but maybe having a program she always watches playing in the background helps her relax.
What makes me want to try harder because my papa did something for me is when he shows how he feels through his actions rather than his words.
For example, the other day, a devoted dad who absolutely can’t meet on weekends managed to slip away and see me during a free moment while keeping it from his wife. I was really happy. Though, to be fair, he happened to buy a car from a dealer near my place, so it was more like, “Since I’ll be there to pick it up, why don’t we have tea for an hour while I’m at it?”
Still, he drove over to pick me up near my apartment, and we had tea for an hour at the Ritz-Carlton café. I was genuinely so happy. I tried to be considerate and said, “I’ll skip the cake because it takes too long to eat,” but afterward he said, “Go ahead and order it,” extended our time, and ordered me cake. That made me happy too. It made me want to make more time to go see him.
I was also happy when another papa set me up with a card again this spring. In papa-katsu, I end up liking the papas who show me through their actions that they care, rather than just saying things like “I love you” or “I like you.”
Because even if they say “I love you,” they’re never actually going to divorce their wives, are they?
So it’s not that they genuinely love you—they just want to say they love you. They’re simply enjoying dating a girl they like so much that it makes them want to say “I love you.” In the end, it’s all about themselves.
That’s why, in my opinion, the real winner is the papa who quietly conveys through his actions, “I can’t truly love you, but I do value you very much.” In a way, that’s the limit of papa-katsu, for better or worse. Sorry for rambling, but that’s how I see it.
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I’m a born-and-raised Osakan, but I absolutely hate it if a comedy show is playing in the background. Needless to say, watching AV at the same time is completely out of the question.
I can’t be intimate without any mood or atmosphere.
Don’t you ever wonder who you’re actually doing it with?
If it feels half-assed, there won’t be a next time.
Ladies, have you ever felt like trying a little harder because of something a man did for you?
☆ When he really puts effort into setting the mood, it makes me want to try harder too. Of course, if the allowance is generous, I’m willing to do more as well.
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You may feel like she’s taking shortcuts because you’re focused mainly on what you want her to do for you.
Personally, I don’t need her to give me oral sex. I’m satisfied as long as she responds properly to caressing and genuinely enjoys it.
That’s why I never feel like she’s slacking off.
Also, I don’t like having other sounds playing while I’m having sex, so I’d probably end things with that woman after just one meeting.
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Are you from Osaka yourself?
If you’re not from the Kansai area, you probably wouldn’t get the humor in Shin-Kigeki, and it would be way too distracting as background music for sex, right?
My papa (a male supporter) usually brings a JBL speaker and plays mostly Western music. Occasionally Japanese songs get mixed into his playlist, and sometimes I can’t concentrate because I start paying attention to the lyrics. He’s Japanese, but he lives almost like a foreigner, so I suppose he can listen to Western and Japanese music without making much distinction.
Also, does this have anything to do with her slacking off? Do you mean you feel she’s not putting much effort into Shin-Kigeki? I think that may simply be how she naturally is. Unless she laughs at Shin-Kigeki and then won’t do anything else.
> Have you ever felt like trying a little harder because a man did something nice for you?
If a man attentively focuses on the places that feel good to me, I’ll return the favor just as attentively.
As for young girls who prioritize money over the relationship, they may not understand that way of thinking, so please wait for Aya’s answer.
Marika
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