I know some women prefer older men, so it’s hard to generalize, but compared with men in their 40s, roughly what percentage more allowance should men in their 60s offer? Also, if a woman has set an age limit of 50 for the men she’ll date, would it be safer not to make an offer if you’re over 60, even if you look and feel physically like you’re in your early 50s?

Women who set an age limit of 50 may simply have never gone on a date with a papa before, or may vaguely feel that they couldn’t be with someone that much older. But after going on dates with a few people, their feelings often change to, “Maybe someone a little older would be okay.” Sometimes, if they receive no offers at all, they may also start thinking, “I’ll meet him first and decide afterward.” With that in mind, I think it’s important to make an offer and actually go on a date first. However, during the date, you should never say something like, “I look young for my age, don’t I?” How young someone looks depends on the other person’s perspective. Even if a man does look young, a woman who has had little contact with older men may still see all of them as old. So rather than emphasizing that, I think it’s better to show how thoughtfully you can act toward her and make an effort to help her understand the composure and generosity that can come with being an older man. As for the allowance, rather than deciding the amount yourself, it’s better to ask her. That way, she can think about how much more she would need and communicate her preferences. It’s simple to know how much money to prepare: just decide the maximum amount you would be willing to give that woman. In any case, I think your chances will improve if you act with consideration for the other person.

If you have the mental fortitude to stay unfazed when a woman who’s particular about age berates you with, “Didn’t you read my profile?” and still negotiate by saying, “I’ll increase the allowance,” then I’d say go ahead if she makes you an offer. Also, if you make your profile public when sending an offer, women who are particular about age will turn you down before meeting you. So it might be best to keep your profile public and see who responds.

I’m sure you’ll find someone who’s happy to be with you as you are, without needing to add anything extra to the allowance! (^-^)v And women don’t necessarily get their allowance reduced just because they’re in their 30s or 40s, either (lol).

It really comes down to the amount the other person is asking for. https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/12944 As mentioned in this question, if someone has gone out of their way to state in her profile that she doesn’t want to meet men in their 60s, making her an offer anyway would leave a bad impression. Even if she agreed to meet, you’d probably be starting out in the negative. Marika

You have to fulfill her either through the allowance or through what the relationship offers—it’s one or the other. There are men with enough vitality to find a girlfriend on their own even in their seventies. If you’re not confident in your own style, then double it in your sixties, triple it in your seventies… Well, it depends on what the baseline is, but… Otherwise, there’s a good chance the woman won’t feel fulfilled. > No matter how much I look and feel like I’m in my early fifties… I can’t say what I really think here… Anyone can only claim to look 15–25 years younger than their actual age… When I went to the hospital with my daughter, I was mistaken for her older brother. It was probably because I was wearing a mask—and also because I was wearing clothes she had picked out for me… Besides, around age fifty is when a man reaches his peak in terms of popularity, with everything—experience, financial security, and so on—in place. So if you’re really that popular, there’s no need to join a club or make offers. Once you’re past fifty, all that keeps increasing is your old age. But I think you can still be attractive if, instead of just melancholy, you’re overflowing with benefits. There are papa-katsu women and plenty of younger people in this world, and it’s exciting to look forward to the promising lives they have ahead of them.

There are so many variables—women’s values, the kind of 40-something men they’re being compared with, the allowance they’re looking for, and so on—that it’s a very difficult question. Even here on this Q&A site, as well as in the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) market in general, there are men who stay active without adjusting their allowance based on their age and are still well-liked by women. So I don’t think you need to set a uniform rule. Even if you offer several tens of percent more, there may still be cases where you simply can’t compete. I’m still not entirely sure myself, but everyone has a different way of thinking about allowance. Both men and women should have their own standards, and if those standards don’t align, they simply shouldn’t pursue an arrangement. To me, allowance is partly a way of expressing gratitude to a woman, and partly a reflection of my own financial value—or perhaps my personal philosophy about spending money. That’s how I’ve been thinking about it lately. As for age limits regarding women, I think it comes down to how old you look and the extent of the generation gap. Physical stamina isn’t relevant, in my opinion. Also, have someone who won’t flatter you objectively assess your apparent age. Many people look about as old as they think they do—or older. Some people naturally look young, but they’re very rare. The people around me who look young seem to benefit from a certain level of effort, as well as the way they’ve lived their lives.