I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) after entering the workforce, but do I have to choose just one papa (a male supporter) after the first meeting?
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I’d like some financial breathing room, so I was hoping to do papa-katsu with several people. Does everyone narrow it down to just one papa?
I’m sorry if this is an impolite question, but I’d appreciate your answers.
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I think it’s perfectly natural to date around two or three papa supporters.
If you focus on just one, you could suddenly find yourself in financial trouble if things come to an end.
If around ¥100,000 a month would allow you to live comfortably, I’d recommend setting your target a little higher—say, around ¥150,000 a month, for example.
Another similarity between papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and amateur-style adult services is that you tend to receive the most offers—and attract the most clients—at the beginning.
Keep in mind that even if you start looking for someone new after parting ways with a man, it may not be easy to find a good one.
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It’s not necessarily about limiting yourself to just one person.
I seem to remember the club saying, “You shouldn’t monopolize a male member!”
In my case, as I wrote in my column—and as Mac mentioned—I started pursuing a one-person relationship as my preferred dating style. Around that time, I also happened to have a long exchange with Kamihikōki-san, haha.
I’m just a country grandpa who isn’t handsome or anything, so I’m doing this partly to avoid being recognized and partly as a precaution against sexually transmitted infections.
Once the relationship actually began, the offers I had at first stopped coming, and my relationships with the other male members also came to an end, leaving just me.
I had previously withdrawn from the club, so later there was talk of me registering again. I said, “I’d be happy to register again!” But in the end, I didn’t, and it feels like we’ve gradually settled into a good relationship with each other.
I think you should also take some time to consider what kind of relationship style you’d like to build with your partner, and then decide what works best for you.
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I think Marika-san is right.
I’m generally open about seeing multiple people, but among the girls I’m dating, some say they have other papas, while others say I’m the only one. I don’t know what the truth is.
So far, I haven’t felt that the ones who say I’m the only one are lying.
Obviously, if you’re going to keep it hidden, it’s best to keep it hidden all the way. But if you’re not confident you can do that, I think it’s better to look for a papa (a male supporter) who’s okay with multiple partners. That said, I get the feeling there are fewer men like that.
If you asked me which I’d prefer, I’d rather be told I’m the only one. But then again, it depends on what position I’d be saying that from, so I don’t ask for that myself—and I also date girls who have multiple papas.
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Why not date several people?
What made you think you had to choose just one? Did one of the men ask you to see only him?
Since this is a dating club, I think it’s fine to date as many people as you like—just choose the ones you feel good about being with.
Some people may want you to see only them. If that person fulfills all your needs, that’s fine, but if not, I think it’s okay to date others as well.
That said, I do think you should be considerate so they can feel that they’re the only one. Some people don’t mind if you’re seeing others, so it may be best to ask about their preferences.
Enjoy yourself!!
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It’s not necessarily wrong.
Some people are open with their partners about seeing multiple people, while others say “you’re the only one” and keep it hidden. I think you should decide what to tell him based on what you’re comfortable with, and aim for an arrangement that both you and the men you’re seeing can accept.
Marika
Personally, I’ve had all kinds of situations: some people tell me I’m the only one, some openly say they’re seeing multiple people, and with others, they don’t ask, but I get the feeling they suspect there may be someone else.
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