When you think about whether you're being treated like a sex slave or like a human being, I feel it ultimately comes down to the amount of your allowance.

I understand that a papa (a male supporter) who asks for a low allowance or demands intimacy is trying to turn you into a sex slave, but I don’t think a higher allowance automatically makes someone better either (the premise itself is contradictory, to begin with). Also, as I’ve said in my comments several times, the right thing to do is simply not date someone if you’re uncomfortable with them. People who don’t change even after you tell them won’t change. I assume the allowance is an important part of the arrangement, but it isn’t everything. I do think both sides should try to see things from the other person’s perspective. I don’t feel that he necessarily views women as objects, either, but how it comes across also depends on the woman receiving it. If you dislike that aspect too, there’s no need to force yourself to continue seeing him.

A PJ being treated like a sex slave A papa trying to turn her into one I won’t say they don’t exist in Universe, but I don’t think there are many. Or am I just out of touch with reality? Even when the question box or columns contain descriptions that sound like sexual slavery, the basic premise is that both parties have consented. And, to make the content work, there’s probably some embellishment—as long as it doesn’t become an outright lie. Everyone has the right to say no to things they don’t want. Any action without consent is a violation of human rights even before it becomes a breach of the rules, so if something like that happens, you can report it to the staff and they’ll take care of it. I believe basic human consideration, love, and gratitude matter just as much in a dating club as they do in the outside world. Correcting or removing members who can’t uphold those basics is also an important part of the staff’s job. An allowance is important, but just because someone pays a lot doesn’t mean they can demand or expect anything they want. Women are not objects. An allowance is money, yes, but it’s money that carries a papa’s feelings and appreciation. —It’s me.

Our values seem to differ slightly. I see it as adding an allowance to a relationship between two people. If the allowance is the whole premise, doesn’t that make it harder to see things clearly? Wouldn’t that mean you’re putting up with something somewhere? Am I the one who’s off here?

Just once, I was introduced to the chairman of a certain apparel company after being told through a man I knew that he was looking for a young woman. I was excited, wondering what someone involved in founding a famous clothing brand would be like. But as soon as we met, the chairman calmly told me, “I have a very strong sex drive, and my wife even tells me to go out and have fun. That’s why I was introduced to you—to satisfy my urges. But having children outside the marriage is absolutely forbidden, so I even had a vasectomy so I could enjoy spending time with women.” I remember thinking, “I’m not sure whether he’s a gentleman or not.” I was given a considerable amount of money, but I thought, “Something about this doesn’t sit right with me,” so I didn’t stay in touch afterward. That said, I never felt like a sex slave. To be honest, I understand the feeling of thinking, “If the allowance is high enough, I can put up with a little unpleasantness and feel like this person respects me to some extent.” You probably can’t continue seeing someone if you feel the allowance isn’t worth it.