I feel like many men on Universe are married, sexually frustrated because they no longer sleep with their wives, and use offer women to take care of those pent-up desires...
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When do you have that moment of realizing, “Oh, I’m really just a video for someone to use to relieve their sexual urges”?
For me, it’s when:
・I feel like there are countless people who could replace me
・I’m asked to travel a long distance for the man’s convenience, without even being offered transportation expenses
・Trips and dates are avoided when I’m on my period, and sex is considered mandatory on dates
・I’m constantly made to work around the man’s schedule. If something comes up with his family, he’ll be late or change the plans
・He tells me “you’re so cute” or “I love you” every single time (I feel like he probably says it to other women too; his words and actions don’t match, and it feels like he’s just complimenting me to keep the mood going)
And so on.
I suppose the allowance is basically compensation for putting up with all that, so maybe it’s only natural, haha.
I’ve received around 60 offers in the six months since joining, but I feel utterly miserable.
Is the real appeal of a dating club for men that they can conveniently use women who say they don’t want to get married and don’t have a boyfriend, yet still want to get married—women they see as pitiful—and have a sort of romantic role-play with them that’s different from using a sex-work service?
I’m sorry this isn’t a pleasant question for either men or women.
Every day is painful, and I want to die... I’m sorry for being so unwell.
Maybe, if I want to be happy, I shouldn’t have gotten involved with a dating club in the first place, even if I’m struggling financially.
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As I mentioned in my answer to another question, some men are only after physical intimacy, while some women are only after money, so mismatches are bound to happen.
Since you’ve met as many as 60 men, I imagine you’ve encountered quite a lot of men like that. Even when looking for an ideal partner for dating or marriage, finding someone who’s a good match is extremely difficult. Part of it may be the level of your expectations, but there simply may not be that many people who can meet them.
Many of the respondents here probably wouldn’t do the things you described, but there are still quite a few people who would. Even among businesspeople, truly gentlemanly and capable men are rare.
I don’t think you’ve been especially unlucky, so you probably don’t need to take it too hard. If you’re tired, I think it’s best to take a break without pushing yourself.
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I understand what you’re trying to say.
I’m married myself, but if my relationship with my wife had been healthy, I don’t think I would have turned to a dating club either.
I think many people live with worries they can’t talk about with those around them. In that sense, things like adult entertainment and dating clubs exist because there are people who genuinely need them.
Of course, everyone knows that you shouldn’t start wars, kill people, or steal from others. But these things still happen—that’s the difference between ideals and reality, I suppose.
> If you want to be happy, should you stay away from dating clubs even when you’re struggling financially?
I think what this really means is: don’t date someone solely for the money.
I’ve been seeing my partner for about four years now. I hardly ask anymore, but during the first two years or so, I would occasionally ask, “Do you dislike seeing me?”
She would say, “No, not at all!”
Her reasons were:
- She could experience a more mature atmosphere and learn how I think.
- She could hear perspectives on things happening in the world that she hadn’t thought of herself.
- From the standpoint of human connection, intimacy isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
- She also receives an allowance.
In conclusion, I believe you should have an adult relationship—not a relationship based solely on money or physical intimacy.
I hope this helps.
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How many people actually continue after taking on as many as 60?
You might not feel that way if you have a few intimate partners who value and treat you well.
I get to go to delicious restaurants and luxury hotels, swim in pools, and play golf together. My own sexual needs are fulfilled too, yet I’m still the one receiving an allowance, so I always feel grateful.
You should also think about whether constantly accepting new offers is really the best idea.
Marika
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I don’t date with the intention of being treated as a tool for satisfying someone’s sexual desires, but perhaps the men you encountered were all like that—or maybe you’ve become so emotionally drained that you can’t see it any other way.
If it’s true that you received 60 offers, you must be very popular. But you sound exhausted, so I think you should quit.
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