The first two were gentlemanly, and there weren’t any particular issues. However, with the third man, I felt that we just didn’t click. I should have turned him down at the time, but I’m really bad at saying no, so I ended up making plans to see him again.
How do you turn someone down when you don’t feel a connection?
Also, I don’t want to continue seeing the third man after our next meeting. What’s the best way to end things?
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Papa: “When can we meet next? How about the [date]?”
You: “I already have plans that day, and I’m too busy with work to make plans right now. Would it be okay if I contacted you again once things settle down?”
Then block him on LINE without contacting him again.
I think that’s fine.
Continuing the relationship half-heartedly will only make things difficult for you, and the papa would also be happier if he could meet someone who’s a better match sooner.
That said, blocking him out of the blue assumes you haven’t shared any personal information with him. If you’ve told him your workplace or home address, it could be scary if he turns into a stalker, so you’ll have to talk to him politely in person and end things properly…
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This may not be much help, but I think it would be best to politely explain how you feel and turn down the relationship.
At a dating club, knowing how to decline properly is just as important as taking off your pants. If you keep saying you’re bad at it, you’ll never develop that skill. There’s no need to take it too seriously, but I think this is a good opportunity to send a message declining the offer.
I’m not really in a position to sound authoritative since I’ve done it myself, but I wouldn’t recommend blocking him except as a last resort. If he replies angrily, I think handling it calmly is the adult way to deal with it.
Good luck!
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“Girls who can’t say no” do exist. Some end up pregnant while they’re still in middle or high school. I heard that from a female OB-GYN.
This is just one suggestion, but why not keep going on dates with that third man and put yourself through an experience you really hate? Maybe then you’ll naturally learn to say no of your own accord.
“How do I say no?” isn’t really the issue. If you strongly want to refuse, you’ll think of something yourself.
Apparently, when people get out of prison, the first place they want to go is a convenience store. Even if they feel like eating a sweet bun, they’re unable to “choose” one from all the options on the shelf. That’s because there’s no such thing as “choosing” in prison.
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