I’m about the same age as my papa’s daughter, and he often tells me about her—how she speaks fluent English because he sent her to school overseas, how she’s landed a job at a prestigious hospital, and so on. For some reason, I’m genuinely interested in hearing about her, but it’s also painful to ask.
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I can tell how much he adores her, and somehow it makes me sad, haha. I don’t really understand why I feel this way myself.
When this happens, is it best to keep asking about her even if I have to force myself? I can’t react naturally, and my expression gets gloomier and gloomier, so yesterday, after some time had passed, he asked me if something unpleasant had happened.
Do any of the other female members feel this way too?
Also, I’ve been wondering lately—how is Mac-san doing?
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Personally, I’d rather not talk about my wife and daughter here if I can help it.
He sounds like a papa (a male supporter) with a pretty strong mindset.
Since he seems mentally tough, I feel like it’d be okay to tell him that you don’t want to talk about his daughter, though…
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I think it’s perfectly fine to be upfront and say, “I’d rather not hear too much about your family, because I end up comparing it to my own situation and it makes me feel sad.”
If you’re around the same age, those feelings of envy are probably even stronger, and they may be showing in your expression or tone of voice.
A lot of papas (male supporters) are insensitive enough not to notice, so why not try telling him?
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They won’t know unless you tell them.
“I’m so jealous—I wish I’d been born your daughter.” Then put on some fake tears and tell them you’re poor, buried in student loans, and don’t even know how you’ll get by tomorrow.
If it were me, I’d increase your allowance.
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Well, yeah… that’s a classic older-guy thing: he likes talking about himself, can’t imagine how a woman feels, and has no tact.
It’s completely normal for you to feel hurt by that.
If you two have a good relationship, why not honestly tell him, “I don’t really want to hear about your family”?
He probably doesn’t mean any harm at all, so unless you point it out clearly, he may not realize that he’s making you feel sad.
If he’s an ideal papa, I think he’ll change his behavior once he understands the situation.
It’s me.
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If you force yourself to keep listening, it’s bound to show on your face and in your attitude, right?
I guess you end up comparing yourself to her, and the resulting inferiority complex makes your expression cloud over.
That’s not good for you, so stop doing it~
Your papa doesn’t mean any harm. He probably just wants someone who’ll listen and nod along while he talks about his beloved girl.
So feel free to scream here:
“Then what do you want me to do?!”
And since I haven’t seen any answers from Mac lately, I’ll take this opportunity to shout:
“Captain!!!”
Thank you for your question.
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Have you heard the theory that the older men who constantly gush about their daughters to other people are often the ones who aren’t actually that close to them?
It’s just my theory, though.
I feel like fathers who say things like, “My daughter’s cute, but she’s so selfish I’m sick of it. I wish she’d get married already,” are probably the ones who actually have a good relationship with their daughters.
And my final hunch is this: what makes the person asking feel sad when they hear it is probably that, deep down, they wish their own father would praise them more.
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