I’d like to ask about a papa (a male supporter) who can’t really provide more than a 30,000-yen allowance, but gives me 10,000-yen meals or snacks worth a few thousand yen instead.
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At first, I was happy about it, but now 12-hour dates have become the norm. He shows no sign of increasing my allowance, and even when I tell him I’m saving money for a specific goal, he only says, “I support you,” without ever offering more than 30,000 yen in financial support.
He expects me to spend long hours with him, and it’s starting to feel rather stingy.
I do have feelings for him, so I can’t be cold. I’m grateful to him, but I’d be happier if he increased the financial support rather than giving me meals or snacks.
What do you think?
Thank you in advance.
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If you agree to something right away, it becomes the default—or the standard—from then on.
So make sure you clearly say no from the start.
As for this papa, I think it’s probably best to end things with him.
Unless you break things off, he may never understand.
How do you manage to keep a date going for 12 hours? It must be exhausting having to put up with that.
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Marika, you look beautiful as always today.
Taro, thank you for working the overnight shift again tonight. I can practically picture that DIP commercial from Nogizaka.
What on earth are they doing for 12 hours? Watching movies, or going three rounds?
Basically, that papa (a male supporter) is a terrible papa.
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That’s a perfectly natural reaction.
If you’d be in trouble without this person and the only allowance you’d lose is that precious 30,000 yen, you can put up with it and stay. But if you don’t want to endure someone over 30,000 yen, then break things off.
If you have plenty of other papa (male supporters) and 30,000 yen is no big deal, then you might as well end it. On the other hand, if you’ve grown attached, you could continue seeing him.
In the end, it all comes down to how you look at it—you’re free to do whatever you want. No one is forcing you either way.
Long time no see!
—Marika
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If there’s genuine affection and you’re seeing each other on that basis, it feels like you’ve effectively accepted the situation already. I’m guessing you want to do something more about it, though.
But once you’ve become that close, even if you asked, “Could you increase my allowance?” they might just shut you down with a simple, “I don’t have that kind of money to spare.”
Maybe your only option is to rely on Mr. Dip after all.
“Raise your allowance, double your take—an app ♫”
Ah, but I think a dating club would be better than an app（笑）
Taro
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