Isn’t it risky to get an allowance above what was initially offered by making him emotionally attached?
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I’ve been hearing people say that if a man offers 50, he has potential, so you should make him emotionally attached and gradually raise his allowance. But if he originally intended to budget only 50, wouldn’t getting him attached and making him pay more cause him to fixate on the feeling that he’s doing something outside his norm, possibly leading to excessive possessiveness and controlling behavior? Or am I mistaken?
That might be different if he were the only person you were seeing, but wouldn’t it be better to spend your time with someone offering better terms, so you can receive your allowance without putting unnecessary stress on either of you? Since he was already offering more than 50 to begin with, continuing the relationship wouldn’t be as stressful for him, and there’d be less risk of him becoming controlling.
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I think it’s dangerous.
I don’t try to get anyone hooked, and I don’t get hooked myself, but generally, I never bring up the allowance until the man offers it first (>_<)
He’s made an offer, taken me out for dinner, and we’ve had a great time. Just when I’m feeling good, bringing up money could ruin the atmosphere, so I don’t want to be the one to mention it.
He went out of his way to pay the offer fee and choose me, so wouldn’t you feel bad making him uncomfortable by bringing up money?
If you negotiate without that kind of consideration or basic courtesy, I think it could end badly—or even become dangerous.
I imagine the allowance gradually increases because the man starts thinking, “Oh, she’s popular—I’d be in trouble if she cut me off!!”
If that’s the case, then personality and charm must be important too.
(Is this what people mean by getting hooked? I’m not sure.)
Or maybe they simply get tired of dragging out the negotiation and end up thinking, “Fine, let’s just go with that!”
I don’t think it’s dangerous if you’re discussing something other than the amount♪
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