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Is it true that dating clubs are legally off-limits?

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Someone I trust told me they’re illegal, and said I should keep working seriously at my current part-time job, build up some additional skills so changing careers wouldn’t be out of the question, and consider marriage hunting as a path to a lifelong career. Honestly, I don’t want to get married and I’m not interested in having children. I also don’t feel confident that I can improve my skills. I hate that I have the kind of looks that are good enough to make it through auditions at entertainment agencies, but not much more. I’m even considering cosmetic surgery. I’m told that being a hostess only works until you’re 30, and that because I’m not very smart, I’ll have no idea what to do after that. When people say things like that to me, I honestly don’t know what to say.
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Maezawa from the president’s office will answer as well. Other dating clubs make each woman’s allowance visible to men, so I think they’re operating in a dangerous gray area. As for Universe Club, they don’t make the women’s allowances public, and even if asked, they won’t disclose them. That makes them a legal organization. In fact, Universe Club may be the only truly reputable dating club of its kind. You can feel reassured about Universe Club. That said, what concerns me about this question is this: If someone you trust told you that, wouldn’t it be enough to trust them and take their word for it? Coming here to ask about it seems almost disrespectful to the person you claim to trust. In any case, please ask that trustworthy person exactly which law they say is being violated. We need the specific name of the law. Otherwise, there’s nothing to debate. By the way, isn’t that supposedly trustworthy person themselves breaking the law? For some reason, I get the feeling that they might be the one on the wrong side of the law. Incidentally, Japan has a huge number of laws, and I suspect that even lawyers may not always know which specific law something violates. For example, suppose there were a job where you took someone to Ginza, had them chat casually with a female friend for about ten minutes, then parted ways—and got paid for it. Even if you asked whether that job violated any laws, an ordinary person would probably conclude that it didn’t violate anything. “That’s what lawyers are for,” you might say, but I imagine the answer would vary from lawyer to lawyer. When they don’t know, people can simply declare something “legally out of bounds,” and then brag if anything ever happens, right? “I’ve been saying it was illegal all along.” And even if nothing happens for ten years, they can always make excuses like, “The authorities just haven’t taken action yet.” When you think about it that way, it’s obvious that a con artist can put themselves in an advantageous position by declaring everything illegal. Come to think of it, I’ve heard that fortune-tellers used to say things like: “I can see water near you.” That may have fallen out of fashion because it became too common, but the reason they say it is that water is such an essential part of daily life that almost everyone has some nearby: drinking water, shower water, toilet water. Then the other person will say on their own: “Oh, there is. How did you know? There’s water right here.” If the fortune-teller simply goes along with it, they’ll be seen as an amazing psychic who can even tell things about someone they’ve never met.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist. If this were legally questionable, both the website and this Q&A forum would be forcibly shut down. This isn’t some underground site or anything. The person you trust is mistaken. At the very least, Universe Club operates legally. That said, be careful with small, shady dating clubs.
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I’m Dai, a male member. For example, the official line with soaplands is that they only facilitate free-choice relationships, and that intercourse happens as a result. The legal issue arises when it becomes organized prostitution. My understanding is that dating clubs also only arrange the initial meeting, after which the man and woman freely choose to enter into an adult relationship (intimate). However, if a dating club were to say, “You can have an adult relationship (intimate) with this woman for an allowance of 5,” that seems like it would cross the line.
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I’m Kazu, a male member. No, it’s a legal business. As Aya explained in her answer, it operates under a notification filed with the police in accordance with the Dating Club Ordinance.
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I’m Aya, a female member. It’s not legally prohibited. You may be thinking it’s considered facilitating prostitution, but these businesses operate under Tokyo’s dating club regulations. They aren’t making people engage in prostitution—they’re simply providing opportunities to meet, so it’s legal. That said, I think there are quite a few clubs operating in a legal gray area, so you should be careful when choosing one. More importantly, judging from the way you wrote your question, you come across as a little naive. Start by practicing how to express yourself logically.
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