At the end of this month, it’s the birthday of the papa I’ve been seeing for exactly a year.
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I’d like to thank him for the past year and give him a small birthday celebration, but because of the timing, will he think I’m only doing it to get a Christmas present in return?
He’s a papa I really love, so I don’t want to make him feel awkwardly obligated to give me something in return. Would men generally prefer just receiving a birthday message?
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
That’s such a thoughtful gesture. That papa is lucky!
If he’s married or has a girlfriend, a large gift might be difficult for him to take home. How about buying a cake, celebrating in his room, and eating it together?
I’m sure he’d be genuinely happy that you wanted to celebrate with him.
Personally, Fuu thinks it’s a bit cliché, but I’d be absolutely thrilled if, in the room, you wore DRW lingerie with the ties made into a bow like a ribbon and said:
“I’m your present.”
“Today, I’ll do whatever you say.”
“Today, you can have your way with me.”
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If you don’t usually ask for things, a small celebration gift probably won’t make them think you’re expecting something in return.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
If you give him a physical gift, it can create the expectation that he has to return the favor with a gift, so something non-material would be better. Something like, “As a birthday present, you can have your way with me,” should be fine. It’s better to say it on the day, since telling him in advance will give him time to overthink things. Then, for Christmas, set things up so he says the same thing to you in return—and you can take your time deciding what to do（笑).
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
Whenever this topic comes up, I always think: Aren’t you all forgetting the song?
A birthday celebration without “Happy Birthday” is incomplete.
I always sing “Happy Birthday to You♪” with all my heart.
It’s embarrassing for a grown man, of course. But just for birthdays, I get over that embarrassment. I’ve only done it once, but I once brought someone to tears by singing “Happy Birthday” with genuine feeling.
The sad part is that no one has ever sung it back to me on my birthday. Not even once, haha.
Please sing “Happy Birthday” for them with all your heart. A letter alone isn’t enough. Go with both a letter and a song.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
Since it’s their birthday, I don’t think they’ll assume you’re giving them something just to get something in return.
They might think, “Of course, I’d like something in return,” but I don’t think it would come across as calculated.
When it comes to celebrating, I think you should simply do what you genuinely want to do. As for getting something in return, even if they do think about it, I feel that’s a little different from feeling obligated, so you probably don’t need to overthink it.
I think the best approach is to give them a birthday gift that conveys your own feelings.
If you don’t want them to feel obligated, you could just say something like, “If you feel obligated, I’ll break up with you.” But even that may not be necessary.
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