Give me the courage to visit a women’s escort service. I’m torn between curiosity and embarrassment.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. For men, it doesn’t really take much courage. There are plenty of establishments, and lots of information online. In my case, a senior colleague from work took me along. Since I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I haven’t gone to sex-service establishments. I’m scared of catching something, and my monthly arrangements keep me satisfied. What concerns me is that services for women aren’t mainstream yet. As Maezawa has also written, it sounds scary to blindly trust information online, end up with someone shady, get your money taken, and then be forced into something without protection. Wouldn’t it be important to get information about establishments from someone with experience and choose a reputable one you can trust?

I’m Taro, a male member. Was it your first time using sex services? In my case, it happened during a business trip when my boss took me along. It was an overseas service where you could take the woman back with you. I failed to do so at first, but contacted her separately on my next trip and went on a personal date. My first experience domestically was also during a business trip. I was told that negotiating with a delivery-service woman and successfully sleeping with her was a rite of passage, so I decided to give it a try. At first, none of the women agreed, but eventually one said yes. Ironically, though, I couldn’t perform. I called her again on another day, but it didn’t work then either. On the third attempt, it finally happened, and as she was leaving, she said, “Thank you.” It feels good for both sides when something that’s been pending finally gets resolved, doesn’t it? Incidentally, on the third visit she used a new technique, and there’s no doubt that was one of the deciding factors. After that, I started exploring these services even when I wasn’t traveling for work—which probably wasn’t the proper way to go about it—and eventually joined a dating club as an extension of that. That’s how I ended up where I am today. Since this is really your first time, I’m sure it takes courage. The female-oriented service industry is still relatively small and unstable, so there may be various risks involved. Laws and regulations, including those enforced by the police, were probably designed primarily with services for men in mind. If there are issues unique to female-oriented services, the system may not be equipped to deal with them yet. As a starting point, I think a dating club would be safer and more suitable. With these services, you don’t know the customer’s identity, whereas dating clubs carefully verify everyone’s identity, so there are leads to follow if anything happens. If you want even more peace of mind, you could even make a reverse offer to one of the people answering here. You can probably get a general idea of what they’re like from their posts, and they’re unlikely to be the kind of member women would complain about. If you say, “I’ll cover the introduction fee for Universe, and you don’t need to pay me an allowance,” I doubt many people would turn you down. It might cost you slightly more than a service fee, but you’re also paying for peace of mind.

Maezawa from the president’s office here as well. I’m not sure how reputable women’s adult entertainment services are, but I remember seeing something online along the lines of: “I went to a women’s service that advertised no intercourse, but they went all the way—and the other person even ejaculated. Isn’t that strange?” So I think you should thoroughly check whether they really provide proper services. Also, if you can find a good papa (a male supporter), you may not need those services at all, so it might be worth looking for a papa first.

I’m Nana Ayase ♡ Why isn’t papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) enough? I only know that women-oriented adult services don’t involve intercourse, but why would anyone want to go for that? What about the women’s version of a men’s esthetic massage? Since they don’t actually put it in, it feels good, but am I the only one who finds it a little unsatisfying…?

I’m Dai, a male member. I first went to a sex-service establishment about 15 years ago. Honestly, it was simply out of curiosity about women’s bodies. The courage it took was probably similar to what I felt when signing up with a dating club. I searched online beforehand and gathered as much information as I could. For my first time, I remember choosing a well-established, reputable place where I felt safe. You’ve got this, haha.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. I’ve never actually taken on a client, but as I wrote in the column below, I am registered with a “delivery host” service. I’m not one of those sparkly, handsome guys featured prominently on their website, and I’m not exactly young at 30-something either—but I do understand how women’s adult services work. I usually turn down unsolicited offers, but if you don’t need to pay me an allowance, maybe I could keep you company? lol Flagmaker: Registering with a “Delivery Host” Service https://universe-club.jp/column/flagmakerhost