I just saw a question from someone who received ¥10,000 more than usual for transportation expenses... Do you all add transportation money separately every time you meet? I thought it was only necessary for the first date, so I haven’t specifically given any transportation allowance on subsequent dates.

I’m Dai, a male member. I think the “transportation expenses” mentioned in the previous question probably refer to the allowance. I consider everything to be part of the allowance. As for transportation costs for dates that require traveling a long distance, I reimburse the actual expenses separately each time.

I’m Taro, a male member. I consider transportation money appropriate only for a first meeting when there’s no adult relationship. Because, in reality, it isn’t really transportation money. Occasionally—about one in twenty women—I’ve encountered people who asked for an allowance plus transportation money from the second meeting onward. It made me feel they were the same type as those union full-timers at big companies who contribute nothing to profits, repeatedly summon everyone to pointless meetings, then proudly boast about achieving a 5,000-yen pay raise. To put it bluntly, they’re “Yoneta Kyo”—or, to sum it up, plain crap. Sorry, that’s just my personal feeling. That said, nobody dislikes receiving money, so if you want to win a woman’s favor, I do think paying for things here and there will leave a good impression. There’s a gentle pressure throughout the industry for men to do that, so it’s not at all unusual for you to do the same. I think it’s one option, too. ('〜')

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here. I think most people only provide an allowance after the first meeting and don’t give separate transportation money, though some people probably do. Also, if it’s a dinner-only arrangement, it’s possible that the allowance after the second meeting is being referred to as transportation money. There are various arrangements, so I don’t think it’s best to jump to conclusions. On the other hand, if you cover transportation costs while other people don’t, she may prioritize you over them. So I think it’s important to consider the situation as a whole and decide what makes the most sense.