Tips Oct 26, 2021 14:09

You’d be put off if a woman told you she wanted to sleep with you, right?? We’re not dating yet, but there’s a man I used to meet and receive an allowance from in order to become romantically involved, and now we see each other without an allowance (not through a dating club). We’re not even a full twelve years apart, but I’m deeply in love with him. I’m most attracted to his looks (though I love his personality too), and since we used to be intimate every time we met, I get turned on just by being with him or looking at his face. I also love being intimate with him, so when we can’t meet, I can hardly stand how much I want him.

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I’m only 20, so I have a really high sex drive, and I’m worried I might impulsively text him something like, “Wanna get intimate?” From a man’s perspective, how would it come across if a woman said she wanted to sleep with him so casually, especially when both people are aware that they want to date eventually? Would you think she was only after something physical, even if she said it first? He knows I used to have several casual partners and date around, too…
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡ Rather than saying “sex” outright, try putting it more delicately. You could say things like, “I want to hug you,” “I want to smell you,” or “I want to touch you.” There are plenty of ways to phrase it. Even if you say it indirectly, I think men will pick up on what you mean.
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I’m Kazu, a male member. If you’ve already had sex and he knows you used to have a friend-with-benefits, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking him out. I’ve never assumed a woman was only after sex. I have wondered whether she was after money, a girlfriend position, or marriage. When I was in my twenties, I would have been put off if she was only after money. Wanting to be my girlfriend or marry me feels like too much, so that still puts me off. I’ve never dated a woman solely because I wanted sex, either. If all I want is sex, it’s easier—and more satisfying—to go to a sex establishment.
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