I feel like a lot of girls stop responding after I simply go about a month without contacting them.
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I’m not good at keeping up with frequent emails or LINE messages, so I tell them from the start that I’m not very communicative. Basically, I only contact each woman to arrange dates, but when I invite them out after about a month, they often leave the message unread and never reply, so it’s been difficult to maintain these arrangements.
Do you all usually keep in frequent contact with your dating partners? And are there people who have been able to continue their arrangements with only the minimum necessary communication?
I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
There may be other reasons as well. I think you probably didn’t leave a very good impression.
If you’re simply getting in touch after a month or several months, some people may actually welcome hearing from you.
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I’ve been seeing someone for over a year with only the bare minimum of contact.
He’s the one who gave me the expensive gift I mentioned here the other day. His usual allowance isn’t particularly generous.
Maybe things would have been different if you had surprised her with a gift or something? Though I can’t say for sure.
That said, of course, the relationship isn’t continuing just because of the gifts. He’s a really wonderful person!
Marika
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think you’re being dropped simply because the women don’t like you enough to want to see you again. Our handsome older papa gets flooded with messages from women. It’s honestly the worst.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
You may be taking the idea of not contacting her for a month too lightly, but from her perspective, you’re the one who has suddenly gone silent.
> I told her from the beginning that I’m not very communicative.
That wording is ambiguous. I think there’s a difference between being brief in your messages and leaving someone completely alone for a month.
So, how can you prevent this?
① Make plans for your next meeting when you see her.
Set everything, including the date, time, and meeting place. I think this alone would make a big difference.
Also, her feelings may change during that month, so try giving her a slightly more generous allowance than usual.
Those two things should make a considerable difference.
If that’s difficult, then:
② Make sure to contact her every week.
Even a message like, “I sent you a Starbucks gift card—use it when you can,” should be fine.
(Of course, you’ll need to actually send the Starbucks gift card too. It’s easy to send one online.)
I think trying these measures would help.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
The frequency of contact seems to vary depending on each person’s circumstances and personality. In my case, I’m the type who likes to stay in close touch, so it’s every day.
That said, we’re both busy, so we basically stick to one exchange a day so it doesn’t become a burden.
I don’t think I’m particularly diligent about messaging, and I’m certainly no handsome older gentleman—in fact, I’m more of a doddering old grandpa—but once I started seeing women, it never really stopped.
They haven’t turned me down, so it’s just continued indefinitely (lol).
Well, she’s my one and only favorite, so although I do have my complaints, I’m enjoying it.
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This is Ayase Nana ♡
If you don’t invite her on a date or even send a LINE message for a whole month, of course she’ll cut you off.
If I don’t hear from someone for two weeks, I assume it’s not going to continue and block and delete them.
So I’m wondering why you didn’t contact her for that long.
You’re not really interested, are you?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
There’s one woman I’ve been seeing for over a year, with almost only the bare minimum of communication. That said, she isn’t very comfortable with LINE, and we meet about twice a month.
With another woman I’ve been seeing for over a year, I exchange messages on LINE almost every day.
The point is, every woman has her own preferences and way of thinking. Rather than focusing on how I am, I think you need to find the right distance for each person. Isn’t that what relationships are all about?
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