Do men talk to their friends about intimate details even when it comes to a girlfriend they’re dating and care about? He seems to treat me very well when we’re alone, but when we happened to talk on the phone, he told me that he talks to his friends about things like having had sex.
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My ex-boyfriend told me the same thing.
I’d hate it if he told his friends negative things too, like the fact that I’m loud during sex. Is this the kind of thing they use as a topic of conversation when they get together with friends?
It’s made me feel reluctant to meet his friends, too.
I’m Fuu, a relationship columnist.
Both men and women tend to get pretty animated when it comes to sexual topics. I might talk about them a little after a few drinks too. But I make sure I can’t be identified anonymously.
There’s no point worrying about it, so just let them say what they want. It’s not like you’re going to date your boyfriend’s friend anyway.
I get the impression that women’s get-togethers involve even more explicit talk—things like size and whether someone is good or bad in bed. Don’t women get pretty excited talking about that among themselves?
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When I was a student, there was a girl at school who was rumored to have put a bottle of Dekavita in there. That absolutely convinced me never to date within the same school.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t think most people talk about those things. Even when they do, it usually goes no further than saying who they slept with.
Regardless of the kind of relationship they have with a woman, they don’t talk about what happens in bed. I don’t ask, and I’ve never talked about it either.
That said, if something particularly surprising happens, I may share it anonymously, just to say that something like this happened. By “anonymously,” I mean something like answering here, “I was surprised when a girl climaxed from cunnilingus alone.”
Adding this after reading Marika’s answer: for similar reasons—and because things can get awkward after a breakup—I try not to get involved with women who live nearby.
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People who form groups like a papa-katsu friend group are probably more likely to talk about things like that.
That said, I think most men who do papa-katsu don’t form groups and generally keep it to themselves.
Since the man you’re seeing said,
“I tell my friends when I’ve had sex with someone and things like that,”
I think he really does talk about it.
> Even negative things, like how loud my moans are
That actually sounds like a positive to me...
> It makes me hesitant to meet his friends.
That’s the right call.
His friends will probably wonder, “So is this what this woman is like?”
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