I checked back in here for the first time in a while. I find myself laughing at some posts and thinking seriously about others. lol
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Thanks as always for all your hard work.
There are men who say they give a monthly allowance of 300,000 yen and meet their partner almost every day, and occasionally there are even people offering less. Don’t men feel uncomfortable about turning the woman they’re seeing into a low-cost woman?
This is just a simple question, but I have someone I’m a big fan of. Personally, I feel happier when my favorite person earns enough to live comfortably and never has to worry about money…
Being able to eat their favorite pudding à la mode whenever they want, and buy things without worrying about the cost—that’s what makes me happy as a fan.
Is it really different when it’s a favorite person versus a girl you’re seeing?
Does it ultimately mean that these men care more about money than the woman, are just aiming for sex without paying, or simply don’t like her that much?
I’m wondering if men and women just think differently about this. It seems she’s become a man’s tool rather than being in a relationship. Is that really okay???
I can relate to Make-Otoko-san’s way of thinking.
I’d appreciate learning more about men’s psychology.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Men and women who place a lot of importance on money,
and men and women who don’t—
They have different values, ideas of happiness, and things they seek, so I think the divide comes down less to gender and more to differences in how people think and feel.
To be honest, it’s not just women—even men don’t really want to join a club or pay money to have someone spend time with them. Deep down, that’s how we really feel…
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I’m not quite sure what the article means, but I see someone on a pay-per-meeting arrangement. That’s all—there’s no feeling guilty or making her into a “cheap woman” involved.
We simply arrange a time to meet, he gives me the agreed allowance each time, and we have an adult relationship (intimate).
That’s really all there is to it. There’s no other meaning behind it.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I have a favorite celebrity too, but they’re already successful and can afford pretty much whatever they want, so I don’t feel the need to lavish them with gifts. Still, having someone to support makes my life more enjoyable and motivates me to work harder, so I’m grateful. I think many papa (male supporters) in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) feel the same way.
I imagine relationships in cases like this tend to be fairly casual, but they can still be enjoyable, so it’s hard to say outright that one approach is right or wrong.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think a woman who judges herself as “cheap” or “expensive” based on the amount of her allowance is pretty cheap herself.
By the way, I don’t want the women I’m seeing to end up struggling financially, either. That’s why I ask how many times a month they’d like to meet. When they have more expenses than usual, they sometimes ask me, “Things are tight this month, so could we meet ○ more times?”
I don’t think it’s a difference between men and women—it’s a difference in how each individual thinks. For example, the “Mr. Loser” you sympathize with is a man.
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