I wouldn’t say I’m a neat freak, but I really dislike dirt and mess, so I wanted to ask about this.

I don’t mind if only the bathroom areas are dirty, but I was once completely turned off after seeing a papa (a male supporter)’s place, where everything—including the room—was filthy. I feel that men who use the toilet messily also treat women badly. Since his place was so dirty, I thought, “No wonder he has no luck with money and is a low-paying papa.” I felt miserable thinking, “Am I really being intimate with a man this filthy?” I ended things with him, though… My current papa makes my room dirty. He uses the toilet standing up, so it splashes everywhere, and he leaves the toilet seat up. He also leaves the sink area soaking wet. So I can easily imagine that his own place must be pretty dirty too. He’s had these habits for years, so even if I ask him to use things more cleanly, he probably won’t be able to change, right…? To what extent are you able to put up with something that is “physically unbearable” to you? Also, something else I was wondering: are men happy when a woman willingly cleans their room for them?