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Oct 12, 2021 01:21
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I wanted a Koala mattress, but he put down something like a really thin futon, so it feels like I’m sleeping on the floor.
I’ve been waking up with a stiff neck, I’m not recovering from my fatigue, and I have trouble falling asleep and keep waking up during the night. It’s even worse because my bed at my parents’ house was incredibly plush. Honestly, it’s tough when my quality of life is lower than it was at home.
The bed frame itself is fine, though…
Would he think I’m being spoiled or unreasonably demanding if I told him I wanted to change it because it’s uncomfortable?
Should I just buy one myself…?
Would buying it myself come across as passive-aggressive?
What do you think?
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I’m Kaz, a male member.
Why not try telling him, “I keep waking up with a stiff neck, I’m not feeling rested, I have trouble falling asleep, and I wake up during the night”?
The key, I think, is to simply explain the problem you’re currently having with your papa, rather than directly asking him to buy you something.
If he doesn’t offer to buy you a replacement mattress, you can always buy one yourself.
As I was writing this answer, I realized that when he chose the furniture he was going to buy for you, he didn’t ask for your opinion or choose it together with you. That’s a shame.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I’ve had a similar experience, so I understand how you feel. In my case, it was the opposite of what happened to you. He actually said something unbelievable like, “Don’t you think we can do without a bed frame? Wouldn’t it be fine just to put the mattress on the floor and sleep?” I went along with it for a while, but it was honestly unbearable. The mattress may have been expensive, but sleeping that way was still really hard on me.
I told him exactly how I felt: “Without a bed, it’s basically the same as sleeping directly on the floor! I want a bed. If you won’t buy me one, I’ll buy it myself.” I think he’ll probably just buy one for you normally. In fact, it seemed to irritate my papa (a male supporter) more when I paid for things myself.